Post # 1
DH and I decided to NTNP about 3 months ago- nothing happened to our surprise. Just this past cycle, we decided to really try for a baby. To prepare for that, I met with an OB for a full check up to make sure all is well- everything was deemed alright. As soon as my period ended in April, we BD every single night until CD 23. That’s a lot of sex, and we thought we had definitely made a baby, but we didn’t. And I’m so surprised that we didn’t.
I haven’t been taking BC. My period comes every 30-32 days. I believe I ovulate because I get the ovulation pains. I take prenatal vitamins. I’m 26. No family history of infertility.
I just don’t know why it didn’t happen? Is it because we do it in the evenings only? I have coffee every morning and still drink wine- could that be an issue?
I know it can take time to get pregnant, but I just thought with alllllll that sex we had that it was a guarantee. I am on CD 2 currently, and can’t wait to try again. Any tips? Temping is not for me, and my husband is turned off by OPKs. Should we try preseed? Where do you get it? Should we not have sex every day? Should we use a certain position? Are there things I should give up to help fertility? Give me all your knowledge, bees- I want this to be the month!
Post # 3
I definitely recommend temping as it will show a clear temp shift which will truly indicate ovulation. As far as opk’s, if FI is turned off by them can you just take them on your own and not tell him when it’s positive, just initiate lots of sex around that time?
Preseed works wonders and is the only lubricant that should be used during TTC. I ordered mine online as I am in Canada, but you can get them from Target if you are in the states.
Have you tried to keep track of your CM? I didn’t do this as I swore by temping, but lots of ladies are able to tell when they are close to ovulation. Maybe you can also try the EOD method?
As far as positions, after BD, some women swear by having their hips elevated and staying like that for a good 10-20 min to allow the little swimmers to get up there. For the cycle I got my BFP I just rolled over after and went to bed, gross i know, but it gave the little swimmers a really good chance at getting up there.
Post # 4
There are a dozen reasons why you could not be getting pregnant. You say charting is not for you but it could answer many of them: 1- If you are indeed ovulating 2- If your luteal phase is long enough to support pregnancy 3- If you are adequately covering your fertile window. If you were to take the next step in medically evaluating your fertility, that is the FIRST thing a doctor would have you do.
Keep in mind that hitting your fertile window still only gives you a CHANCE of getting pregnant that cycle. Also; Depending your your husband’s sperm quality, having sex every day might be a detriment.
Drinking coffee & wine in moderation should not seriously impact your fertility.
Post # 5
@mrscandyv: thanks for your reply 🙂 can you explain to me how temping works? If it’s my first month using it, will it read accurately? I’ve heard it can take a few months to get the hang of it. I do use fertility friend, so I could justpunch that data into my chart.
The funny thing about cm is that I used to always notice it and how it changed before we started trying, but now I can’t tell if there are any changes! It’s so frustrating.
Post # 6
EOD = Every other day. You should watch The Great Sperm Race – really helpful to understand how it all works and might convince you to NOT have sex every day.
the links to the rest of the parts you’ll see on youtube while watching part 1.
Post # 7
@MrsRugbee: I’ll give it a whirl then. If I was to temp, how do I do int and what do I look for? Like what are average numbers? I saw a basal body therm. at CVS. Is any one good to use?
Post # 8
First thing to do is get Toni Wechsler’s book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It does a great job of explaining things really thoroughly.
Post # 9
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It doesn’t really matter if you had sex every day for the month or if you had sex just every day while you were ovulating- just because it was a lot of sex over the course of the month doesn’t mean it increased your chances at all. There’s something like a 1 in 4 chance of getting pregnant each month if you have sex during the time while you’re ovulating. I wouldn’t worry about fertility issues until you’ve actually been trying for much longer than one cycle.
Post # 10
@FutureMrs.Wood: I can only tell you what I do so here it goes
I bought a cheap thermometer from Wal-Mart. Some women like the more expensive ones that go to the 1/100, but mine just went to the 1/10 and it worked fine for me.
I kept the thermometer on my night stand. And every morning before you get up and do anything, while still laying in bed you take your temperature. I did it orally, some women prefer to temp vaginally.
The key is to take your temperature at the same time every morning. And only temp once in a day. Once your feet have hit the floor, the numbers can be skewed.
Also to make the temp accurate you need to have slept for at least 4 hours. For example, if you get up to pee at 4 am and then wake up to temp at 630 am, the temp may be off.
In general however you should start seeing patterns after a couple months and be able to see a clear temp shift, which proves ovulation.
Post # 11
If you have an iPhone you might find it helpful to download the Fertility Friend app. There’s a charting course on it that you can complete and there’s tons of info!
Also, keep in mind that even in a healthy couple who does everything right there’s still only a 25% chance of getting pregnant each cycle.
Post # 12
@FutureMrs.Wood: Fertilityfriend.com has a great app for tracking your fertility. a lot of bees use it & chat on the Charters thread. It has a great course on charting. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is also the charting BIBLE; it’s a must read!
Post # 13
@jny1179: I just started watching the video and had to pause it to say that sperm officially freaks me out now! Lol! It wiggles like a worm, and of all things in the world, I am so seriously disturbed to worms…of all kinds! despite that, I am intrigued by the info and will continue to watch right now 🙂
Post # 14
@FutureMrs.Wood: I understand the discouragement. Last month was my first cycle, and I was really upset because we had sex everyday of my fertile window but one. I just couldn’t understand how it didn’t work! This month we decided to try the preseed route, but I am only 3 DPO, so I don’t know if it worked yet or not, but it did seem like I had a lot more CM then I did previously.
I would reccomend either charting or doing OPKs just to ensure that you are acutally ovulating, and also to give you a definitive time of when it is happening. If you do that, you won’t have to force sex for 23 days straight; you can just do it for fun before your fertile window.
Just keep reminding yourself that there are so many factors that go into getting KU beyond there being an egg and a sperm.
Post # 15
@FutureMrs.Wood: You can have sex every day or every other day. Each month a healthy woman still only has a 20% chance of getting pregnant. You’re not doing anything wrong, sometimes it just takes time.
Can I ask why your husband is turned off by OPKs? TBH that’s weird, since it’s just something to pee on, you can do it without even telling him.
It took me 7 cycles to get pregnant. The last couple of months I stopped temping, I just tracked CM and used OPKs. Not temping can still work.
Post # 16
@onyx81: How exciting- you can find out soon!!! Good luck to you 🙂 Where did you buy preseed? And what OPKs do you use? When you buy it, how many are in the kit? Sorry forsounding so ignorant :/