Post # 1
my wedding is next week 🙂
the week before the wedding, i hung out with bms and friends who were in town
just eating dinner and coffee.
one of my bms recently got engaged
and am very happy for her.
and i understand that this time period is not just for me
and she has the recently engaged glow
the entire night, the only thing we talked about was her planning.
i mean, even to the point of youtubing wedding dances to plan her wedding.
and honestly, i was a little miffed.
its the week before my wedding, the bms didnt really help with the actual planning, yet they were all there getting ready for hers.
i really sound ego-centric but i promise im not.
i was just miffed 🙂
Post # 3
Ohh, that’s tough. I don’t have any advice, but I can empathize. Both you and your engaged friend are needing your friends’ support right now, but, if your wedding planning is going anything like mine, you needs are much more urgent. I honestly don’t think that any woman will understand what a bride needs until she is one herself. Since getting engaged, I’ve wished that I could redo what I did for my married friends. Not that I was a bad friend – just as yours aren’t – but wedding planning is requiring a lot more support than I ever imagined. I’m sorry that you’re going through this, and I hope that your BMs’ ignorance passes quickly!
Post # 4
Ugh! I am sorry to hear that!! They should have only talked about her engagement story for about 10-15 minutes, then your MOH should have changed the subject to you. She will have her time to shine, now is yours!! The next time you all get together take over the convo about how wonderful your wedding was and how absolutely glorious married life is!
Hope your wedding exceeds all your expectations!! 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Aww, that sucks. I’m sure she didn’t realize she was bogarting all of the attention. It’s really hard because you have been waiting so long, and your time’s finally here! I agree–next time everyone is together, take over! Make it about you. It really is your time. She can have the spotlight once your wedding’s over.
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
That is a bummer. You being miffed is very understandable. Your wedding is the one time where the spotlight should be on you! Hopefully the BMs will refocus on your wedding ASAP–they can start thinking about the BM’s wedding after next weekend!
Post # 7
Yeah, I would have given her 15 minutes to dish about details, then move on. She can talk everyone’s ear off after you have your wedding. Hopefully she won’t do this at your wedding too!
Post # 8
I do agree that really stinks :-(. In my own experience, people seem to have the most questions and the most excitement during the first month or so of the engagement. Then, as time went on, people seemed less and less interested in hearing about specific details.
Sorry that the recent engagement overshadowed your upcoming wedding.