Post # 1
My FI and I are starting to plan and while we’re not on a strict budget, we also want to economize where we can to keep things from getting out of hand. One of the biggest costs is the dinner reception, which in my area costs anywhere from 80-120 a person.
We LOVE brunch and have thought of doing a brunch reception. The only problem with that is that the timing for a brunch reception at the place on the top of our list of venues is from 10am to 1pm. While 10am isn’t too early to start, that would mean the ceremony would be at like, 8:30 – no one wants to do that. So we thought of doing the ceremony after the brunch, followed by a short champagne/cake reception in the church fellowship hall. Here’s how the scheduling would look:
- Wedding Brunch – 10am – 1pm
Ceremony – 2pm – 3pm (or 2:30pm – 3:30pm)
- Menu includes omelets, carving stations, pasta, lots of great food.
- Drinks available are juices, smoothies, coffee, tea, mimosas, champagne
- “Events” at this portion include a toast by my parents, father/daughter dance, mother/son dance.
- I would wear a reception dress here.
- We are thinking of having a string quartet as less people wiil be thinking about dancing at that time and we want to up the formality.
Champagne/Cake Reception – 3pm – 5pm (or 3:30pm – 5:00pm)
- It will take about 30 minutes to get from the brunch site to the church, so I’m not sure about timing.
- For the Ceremony I would change into a traditional wedding dress.
- My friend who makes the most incredible cakes, is going to make a cupcake tower for us with a cake top for this.
- We can have finger foods and maybe some homemade mac & cheese and ziti here for anyone who is hungry again.
- Drinks available: Champagne for toast – Sodas and maybe some beer/wine
- DJ (someone I know who is willing to help out for free) for dancing and entertainment
- Events at this portion: Our first dance, an anniversary dance, cutting the cake, toasts by best person and maid of honor
So what do you think? Are our guests going to think we are crazy or will this make sense?
Post # 3
I think this is a great idea. I love brunch too and I agree that getting married at 8:30 would not be ideal. My only suggestion is maybe simplify your cake and champagne reception. People may not want to stick around much longer after the ceremony.
Besides that I LOVE this idea and I am kinda sad I didn’t read this before we booked! What a great way to save money and still get all the “traditional” (dances, cake, toasts etc.) wedding things.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I like the idea! Would the reception be at the same location as the ceremony? I think 7 hours is a liiiiiiiiiiiitle long.
Post # 5
@Meggiemae14: I agree, what I plan on doing is having all the eventy stuff right in the beginning of the cake reception (cake cutting, first dance, toasts) so that if people want to leave right after that they can. The church has a kitchen right off the fellowship hall, so I’d set up some appetizers and things in there so that if people get hungry they can wander in and eat, but there won’t be a designated meal time or anything like that.
@lealorali: The reception/ceremony are at the same place, but the wedding brunch is about 30 minutes away. Like I said above, the only reason for the extended cake reception is if people want to stay and hang out and dance.
The other benefit is that we plan on having a slightly larger guest list for the ceremony/reception than for the brunch.
Thanks for your input 🙂
Post # 6
I’d just do a 10-11 ceremony followed by brunch/cake/dancing. This sounds like a long day and a little disjointed!
Post # 7
Your venue will not provide brunch food in the afternoon? Anther bee who recently posted I doing an afternoon reception with all brunch food.
Post # 8
I’m having a 10:30 1/2 hour ceremony followed by a mimosa/coffee hour then brunch. I would stick to a more traditional timeline. The morning getting ready and stuff is definitely going to be tight, but doable. You want your day to have a good ‘flow’ and I don’t think splitting it up like that does. You are celebrating your marriage, so it seems weird to have the celebration before the ceremony!
Post # 9
I like the idea (and who doesn’t love brunch?)…gives you time to relax and enjoy your meal with the guests before the ceremony. i like that you’ll be changing dresses too 🙂
I think the only issues are timing/distance – just how far is it between the brunch place and the church? If I had that nice brunch and a couple mimosas…I wouldn’t love the idea of driving an hour or more to the church….
Also, you just need to take a look at who your guests are and if they would enjoy this or not…we have a good amount of “old school” guests who are used to the whole big Italian wedding thing (which we aren’t exactly doing, but this brunch idea and having the ceremony afterwards would cause a lot of commotion for them, and as a PP pointed out, be too “disjointed”)…and even though people say your wedding is about you/your husband (it is), I think it’s important to host your guests well and make them happy (being careful not to inconvenience them).
Post # 10
My cousin did something like what you’re saying and it was great, don’t worry about it!
Post # 11
You mentioned that not all guests would be invited to the brunch. So who is invited and who isn’t? As a guest I would be a little miffed to find out that a lot of guests (so more than just immediate family) had been invited to a morning brunch reception and I had not. I also think that 10am – 5pm is a long day to ask of guests.
The feeding guests twice thing might also be more expensive than you think. Wouldn’t it make more sense financially to just feed guests once with a brunch reception after a 10:30am ceremony.
Post # 13
@sweet5k: sounds great! I don’t see how it would confuse your guests. A celebration is a celebration, whether it’s before or after you exchange vows.