Post # 1
This weekend was amazing and overwhelming all at the same time. Two sets of my best friends just had babies, and another couple just baught a house (they got engaged just over a month ago). So needless to say, the subject came up quite a bit. All of this prompted me to speak my mind (quite bluntly, lol).
On Sunday night I told J that I wanted to get married next year. He didn’t say anything at first and I was kind of upset about that. I’d like to hear SOME feedback… Right? The next day he spoke up, and said: “…I’m thinking about things that you and I both want… The things you said last night. I want those things too, whether my Jeep sells or not.” I told him that I was trying very very hard to be patient… Which is extremely difficult for me to do because I am an impatient person. He understood, and by this point the conversation had turned playful and we just fell asleep.
I’m just happy that I had the courage to speak up about what I wanted. Usually I’m pretty shy when it comes to this stuff.
Anyhoo… Jut thought I’d share my wee bit of progresss 🙂
Post # 3
Yay! I’m glad you spoke your mind! Sometimes they just need to hear exactly what you’re feeling. I don’t think guys realize how much planning is involved in a wedding-big or small either. Hopefully you wont be waiting too much longer!
Post # 4
@GwenvonD: That sounds promising! And good for you for expressing your desires. I know how it is to be shy about such things, especially a women we tend to want the man to initiate those conversations. But what I’ve discovered is that when you express your needs/desires in a calm way, you have nothing at all to lose from it–and most likely a lot to gain. I finally got up the courage to tell my SO a few months ago that I’ve been thinking of a fall wedding next year. To my surprise he agreed on it right away and now is totally on aboard with that idea. If I had never mentioned it, God knows what he would be thinking! In fact, my SO used to think that most people got engaged for 2-3 months before geting married. I had to tell him that I would prefer being engaged for a year—which also was perfectly fine in his eyes.
So feel free to speak up! It’s so liberating 🙂
Post # 5
*yay* glad he heard you and wants the same!