- 6 years ago
Hi, I’m new here – well, I’ve been following the waiting board for a while and I finally decided to sign up so I can vent a bit, and hopefully get a bit of advice from you wise ladies 🙂
My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost 2 years, together for 3 and a half. He’s turning 35 this month and I’m 31. I am sooo tired of waiting. 2 years ago when we first moved in, I proudly told my friends “oh, yaknow, I don’t want to pressure him. We both know we want to marry each other, it will happen when it happens.” A romantic at heart, I wanted it to be a completely boyfriend-driven event….well 2 years later that ship has sailed! I know he is looking at rings now (FINALLY) and he told me that he’s been saving up for a year (money isn’t really an issue, its not like he’s a freaking student, his loans have been paid off for almost a decade – lame excuse in my opinion) and that’s why its been taking so long. I know its just his personality – I know he is just more go with the flow than I am – but I am really starting to get very impatient. My issue is that I have had to have conversation after conversation with him and endure dissapointment after disappointment, and it is starting to erode the moment for me. I would give anything to be back to where I was 2 years ago, feeling like a proposal could be the most romantic moment of my life without my own intervention.
I am almost at the point where I want to tell him forget about it, the time has passed, lets just start working on our family because I’m no spring chicken. But he wants to be married before we start trying for kids and I really do want a romantic proposal and a wedding…but is the romantic part still possible??
My question is, how the heck can I get over this and be able to enjoy my proposal and feel like it is still romantic even though I feel that at this point I’m practically proposing to myself. I don’t want our lives together to be infused with resentment, pressure and impatience but it seems thats where its starting. Tell me all of that will dissolve once he finally asks!!
Have you had a similar experience? Did you feel you had to wait too long and when the proposal finally came did you feel it made up for the time you spent waiting?