Post # 1
Anyone else have a small bridal party? And it all stemming from not having many friends? It seems like all the weddings I see have like 5 or 6 attendants on each side. We’re not super extroverted people. well I am, but my FI is more of an introvert and works a lot and doesn’t make friends very well. We have one couple who are our closest friends, we’re their MOH and Best man this summer. Aside from that, he doesn’t really have any male friends.
And even me, I have her and my sister and my SIL that I consider “best” or close friends, and then a bunch of friends who will come to the wedding but I don’t think are special enough to be in my bridal party. I’m fine with my closest friend, my sister and my SIL being my bridal party, but I feel horrible that my FI only has his closest man friend and possibly my brother or his boss. He doesn’t have anyone else he would even consider putting there. Infact, aside from his family and coworkers, he doesn’t really have friends who are being invited to the wdding and that makes me sad too. We live in a small town and it’s hard for him to make friends with how much he works/his hate for going out and doing things.
So back to my orignal statement. Our bridal party may be at max 5 people- 3 on my side, two on his. It’s hard for me to wrap my head around small parties. I wish we were better at making real life friends, and I feel like people are going to judge our small bridal party.
I’ve been lookng at photos of smaller parties, but they’re hard to find. Anyone else have a small party? (Please don’t chime in that they’re not needed at all or you didnt have one, because that’s not helpful) Want to share some photos?
Post # 2
I’m curious why it wouldn’t be helpful to know that other people didn’t even have a bridal party or to hear that most people don’t care how many people are in your bridal party. I guess I don’t understand societies obsession with turning a wedding into a show and constantly comparing your wedding to everyone elses. I feel that it should be about the couple and what suits them. If your FI has limited friends then thats fine. He shouldnt feel pressured to make new friends because he or you are sad by how it looks to others. Honestly, I highly doubt anyone cares and anyone who does needs a reality check about what a wedding really is about. Just accept eachother for who you are (introverted is awesome!) and enjoy your wedding exactly the way it is.
On a side note, my SO is much more social and outgoing than me. He has a lot more friends and I’m sure if we got married he would have many more potential groomsmen then I would bridesmaids. But I’m fine with that. By choice, I would probably limit the parties on each side to 3 just for the sake of not making a huge production out of it.
Also, if this isn’t helpful feel free to let me know and I’ll delete my comment!
Post # 3
From what I have read online… less BMs=Less drama… which sounds kind of nice when you have a million other things going on.
Post # 4
I actually will have les BM’s than you. I’m so engrossed in my program that my partner has become my closest friend. So at my wedding his 2 sisters will be my bridesmaids and it’s the same for my S/O his BIL’s will be his bestmen. Sometimes I think about it, but then I also think less stress, less money to spend and only those that I truly care about will be a part of my day.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
We’re not having a bridal party at all, but my FI sounds a lot like yours. We recently moved and he has NO friends here. Not one. And his best friend isn’t making the trip for the wedding, why? I have no idea. It makes me SO sad.
Post # 6
cirk: We had 3 and 3. Here’s a quick photo of our party I happen to have on this computer 🙂
Post # 7
I am a very outgoing person and have tons of friends that been said, i have a small bridal party. MOH and 2 bridemaids. and that is just how i like it. i didnt want any additional stress that comes with having a large bridal party. And apparently some people are uspet they didnt get chosen to be in the bridal party( OH WELL). i just needed people that will show up on time for the wedding, and have a good time with me and wont be jealous or create any drama of sorts.
Cheer up having a big or small bridal party is nowhere indicative of how many friends you have.
Post # 8
I loved having the party small by the way. I was able to pay for more things for them as gifts and it was SOOOOO relaxed!
Post # 9
How does your FI feel about this? You said it makes you sad but don’t mention how he feels just that there’s no one else he would even consider putting in the wedding/bridal party & that it’s hard for him to make friends. If he truly is an introvert like you say then maybe this way just works out better for him.
Post # 10
Quality over quantity!
I am having 5 girls. One of which is my 14 year old neice. But other than these 5 girls i dont have many more friends. Lots of aquantances. I have been to weddings that had less than, and even no wedding party and its just as fine as having more!
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
“Please don’t chime in that they’re not needed at all or you didnt have one, because that’s not helpful”<br /><br />
Guess I won’t chime in then.
Post # 12
I chose to have a small bridal party. While my husband and I both have friends, we made sure to pick those closest to us. Unfortunately, I definitely had drama on my side…but we made it :). Here’s a photo! Yes, the dog was practically a groomsman, bow tie and all!
Post # 13
Thank you all, this made me feel so much better. I was just having a super sad moment last night lol.
Also im not sure why this posted three times. But thank you all
Post # 14
cirk: I don’t see the problem at all! I prefer it. I have a MOH, bridesmaid, bridesman and he has his BM, and 2 groomsmen. We’re both only children so we had no family obligations. We’re having our closest and dearest friends standing next to us, who needs more than that?
Post # 15
I’m having 2 bms and 2 gms.. that’s it. It’s been drama see so far and I love it! Our wedding isn’t going to be huge [maybe 60 people?]. I personally think having tons of people up there with you is overkill.