Small bridal party/lack of friends making me sad

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m curious why it wouldn’t be helpful to know that other people didn’t even have a bridal party or to hear that most people don’t care how many people are in your bridal party.  I guess I don’t understand societies obsession with turning a wedding into a show and constantly comparing your wedding to everyone elses.  I feel that it should be about the couple and what suits them.  If your FI has limited friends then thats fine.  He shouldnt feel pressured to make new friends because he or you are sad by how it looks to others.  Honestly, I highly doubt anyone cares and anyone who does needs a reality check about what a wedding really is about.  Just accept eachother for who you are (introverted is awesome!) and enjoy your wedding exactly the way it is.

On a side note, my SO is much more social and outgoing than me.  He has a lot more friends and I’m sure if we got married he would have many more potential groomsmen then I would bridesmaids.  But I’m fine with that.  By choice, I would probably limit the parties on each side to 3 just for the sake of not making a huge production out of it.

Also, if this isn’t helpful feel free to let me know and I’ll delete my comment!

Post # 3
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326 posts
Helper bee

From what I have read online… less BMs=Less drama… which sounds kind of nice when you have a million other things going on.

Post # 4
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317 posts
Helper bee

I actually will have les BM’s than you. I’m so engrossed in my program that my partner has become my closest friend. So at my wedding his 2 sisters will be my bridesmaids and it’s the same for my S/O his BIL’s will be his bestmen. Sometimes I think about it, but then I also think less stress, less money to spend and only those that I truly care about will be a part of my day.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

We’re not having a bridal party at all, but my FI sounds a lot like yours. We recently moved and he has NO friends here. Not one. And his best friend isn’t making the trip for the wedding, why? I have no idea. It makes me SO sad. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

cirk:  We had 3 and 3.  Here’s a quick photo of our party I happen to have on this computer 🙂

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am a very outgoing person and have tons of friends  that been said, i have a small bridal party. MOH and 2 bridemaids. and that is just how i like it.  i didnt want any additional stress that comes with having a large bridal party. And apparently some people are uspet they didnt get chosen to be in  the bridal party( OH WELL).  i just needed people that will show up on time for the wedding, and have a good time with me and wont be jealous or create any drama of sorts.

Cheer up  having a big or small bridal party is nowhere indicative of how many friends you have. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I loved having the party small by the way.  I was able to pay for more things for them as gifts and it was SOOOOO relaxed!

Post # 9
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351 posts
Helper bee

How does your FI feel about this? You said it makes you sad but don’t mention how he feels just that there’s no one else he would even consider putting in the wedding/bridal party & that it’s hard for him to make friends. If he truly is an introvert like you say then maybe this way just works out better for him.

Post # 10
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858 posts
Busy bee

Quality over quantity!

I am having 5 girls. One of which is my 14 year old neice. But other than these 5 girls i dont have many more friends. Lots of aquantances. I have been to weddings that had less than, and even no wedding party and its just as fine as having more! 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

“Please don’t chime in that they’re not needed at all or you didnt have one, because that’s not helpful”<br /><br />

Guess I won’t chime in then.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I chose to have a small bridal party. While my husband and I both have friends, we made sure to pick those closest to us.  Unfortunately, I definitely had drama on my side…but we made it :).  Here’s a photo!  Yes, the dog was practically a groomsman, bow tie and all!

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

 

cirk:  I don’t see the problem at all!  I prefer it.  I have a MOH, bridesmaid, bridesman and he has his BM, and 2 groomsmen.  We’re both only children so we had no family obligations.  We’re having our closest and dearest friends standing next to us, who needs more than that? 

Post # 15
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8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m having 2 bms and 2 gms.. that’s it. It’s been drama see so far and I love it! Our wedding isn’t going to be huge [maybe 60 people?]. I personally think having tons of people up there with you is overkill.

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