Post # 1
Anyone else have a small bridal party? And it all stemming from not having many friends? It seems like all the weddings I see have like 5 or 6 attendants on each side. We’re not super extroverted people. well I am, but my FI is more of an introvert and works a lot and doesn’t make friends very well. We have one couple who are our closest friends, we’re their MOH and Best man this summer. Aside from that, he doesn’t really have any male friends.
And even me, I have her and my sister and my SIL that I consider “best” or close friends, and then a bunch of friends who will come to the wedding but I don’t think are special enough to be in my bridal party. I’m fine with my closest friend, my sister and my SIL being my bridal party, but I feel horrible that my FI only has his closest man friend and possibly my brother or his boss. He doesn’t have anyone else he would even consider putting there. Infact, aside from his family and coworkers, he doesn’t really have friends who are being invited to the wdding and that makes me sad too. We live in a small town and it’s hard for him to make friends with how much he works/his hate for going out and doing things.
So back to my orignal statement. Our bridal party may be at max 5 people- 3 on my side, two on his. It’s hard for me to wrap my head around small parties. I wish we were better at making real life friends, and I feel like people are going to judge our small bridal party.
I’ve been lookng at photos of smaller parties, but they’re hard to find. Anyone else have a small party? (Please don’t chime in that they’re not needed at all or you didnt have one, because that’s not helpful) Want to share some photos?
Post # 2
I have one! We’re only having three in total, my 2 sisters and his brother. I hated the idea of a large party (for myself) and always invisioned only having my sisters. My FI on the other hand has lots of close friends and couldn’t choose, so he is just having his brother.
I don’t see it being an issue at all, especially for his brother having two girls hanging off him
Post # 3
Where I’m from its pretty common to have smaller parties. We had two Brides Maids, a Best Man and two and a half ushers! If your dead set on the ascetics of a huge party there is not a lot that will change that. But there are advantages to a smaller bridal party.
Cost – we bought the BMs dresses and hired the suits so the fewer people the less we had to spend out.<br />Organisation – it is so much easier to organise a smaller group than a larger one.<br />Closeness! – it was really nice just having our closest people around us, no arguments, no fall outs. Everyone was involved with lots, not because it was their ‘job’ but because they wanted to be involved, the dress shopping trip was a great day out full of fun, no awkwardness with does A know B, does C get on with D etc. just a small group of friends together.<br />Dresses – in particular with bridesmaids if you like the matching look…..the fewer different body types and personal styles the easier it is to find something that works and makes everyone happy.
But overall….I just loved having just our closest friends being involved, we had a really, really low stress wedding and I think choosing just our closest friends who wanted to be involved helped hugely. It was great fun, the photos look fab.
Post # 4
cirk: Don’t allow the size of your bridal party to bother you because that isn’t what will determine the quality of your marriage. Im sure you wedding will be awesome! My wedding party will consist of: Best man, MOH, two flower girls 3yr old and a 5yr old, two ring bearers 5yr old and a 4yr old. The other day, my friend said it’s a kiddie wedding. Now ask me if I care…neither were my feelings hurt! Wedding is just a formality, but spending the rest of ypur life with a wonderful spouse is what’s most important!
Post # 5
cirk: I started with 3 and ended up with only 1 being able to make my DW due to personal situations for the2 BM’s. I love my photos of our closest friends standing up with us. I certainly would have loved it more if my other two BM’s had been able to join us but unfortunately that wasn’t in the cards.
I think the only thing that matters is that you surround yourself with people who you love and support and who do the same for you.
I also think a lot of people mix up acquaintance with friend and that is why they have major problems with their bridal party.
Post # 6
cirk: Have you read the Intimate Weddings blog? Most of those weddings have between 0-3 attendants and that may help you feel a bit better when you can actually see those weddings. http://www.intimateweddings.com/blog/
Also, we’re not having a wedding party, although for photos my siblings and FI’s sisters will sort of fulfill that. I’m having my sister and brother on my side and he’s having his 2 sisters… non-traditional mixed-parties FTW!
Anyway, I’m in the same boat as you and don’t make friends easily. I can only think of two people I’d be happy with in my bridal party. I think weddings with small numbers of attendants are awesome and you will totally rock it!
Post # 7
I don’t think anyone really pays attention or cares, except when the group is exceptionally large!
Plus, I had 7 and husband had 6 and it was A LOT to reign in on the day of. And I don’t even want to mention the cost of everyone’s gifts and hair! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with what you have going on— it represents you! Now’s not the time to beat yourself up because you’re not an extrovert; that usually means you’re able to have deeper relationships!
Post # 8
We’re just having 2 on each side. I have my sister as my MOH, and his sister as my bridesmaid. He’s having his brother as BM, and his BIL (sister’s hubby) as his groomsman. We’re having a small family wedding, and a shorter ceremony, so neither of us thought that a large wedding party was necessary.
Post # 9
Kate Middleton only had one adult bridesmaid 🙂
Post # 10
I am getting remarried. I am not having any attendants. Just my daughter and his daughter as flower girls and my son walking me down the aisle.
Post # 11
cirk: We have 2 on each side plus a flower girl. We really don’t get the need to have a large wedding party and were happy to keep it at that.
Post # 12
I have 3 bridesmaids – my 2 sisters and my FSIL – and my FI only has one GM – his best friend. The way I see it, the fewer attendants you have, the less chance of drama!
Post # 13
This was our bridal party. 🙂 Maybe it’s time for a bit of perspective. Your wedding is a reflection of who you BOTH are. If your husband is an introvert and doesn’t have/make a lot of friends easily, how comfortable will HE feel with a large wedding party–just to fulfill a “should have.” Find out what’s important to him.
Post # 14
cirk: I think we’re probably just having my sister and his brother. As the replies here suggest, it’s pretty common, I wouldn’t overthink it. (Plus, read some of the issues people have on here when they have lots of BMs or people they’re not close to, and think of all the drama you’re saving yourself!)
Post # 15
cirk: We are just having 3 bridesmaids and NO groomsmen. My three bridesmaid are the only friends I will have there and he doesn’t really have any close friends. The girls will walk down the aisle and then sit and then just the two of us will be at the “altar”