Post # 1
My BF and I are not engaged yet, but we have a ring picked out and I hope its coming soon! We have discussed some options for our wedding and we have some conflicting ideas. I want a small, intimate ceremony, and he wants a big, blow-out bash with all his friends and family. This is complicated by the fact our families live in 2 different states and his grandmother can’t travel.
What do you bees think of having a small intimate Catholic ceremony in his home state, which would allow his grandmother to attend (and my immediate family and grandparents as well – we can travel), followed by a reception in my home state the week after with all our family and friends.
Does this sound silly? Although I expect nothing from my guests except their support and presence, could people think this is “gift-grabby” if we don’t invite them to the ceremony, only the reception?
ETA: We would definitely have the reception in my home state, as we currently live here (Chicago), my large family all live here, and the majority of our friends do as well. Also, its a “better” destination (potential long vacation weekend) for our out-of-town friends who would be travelling.
Post # 3
Having an intimate ceremony and large reception is definitely ok – so long as the ceremony is turely intimate. You should have no more than 20-25 guests and it immediate familiy only (parents, siblings, grandparents, no aunts, uncles, cousins, friends). I would also be sure to hold some sort of small reception/dinner after the ceremony to thank those that came.
Post # 4
This is what I tried to do – but my intimate ceremony had to include all my family flying in for the wedding. My mom is the last of 11 children… so needless to say the ceremony will still be ‘intimate’, but fairly large (maybe around 50 people) while my reception is for around 250-260 people.
Post # 5
I think that’s totally fine! Just make sure you invite everyone from the ceremony also to the reception (even if you know they can’t make it).
Post # 6
@RunsWithBears: I think it will be less than 15 people, so hopefully that is okay!
@Pinkmoon: Yes everyone will be invited to the reception as well, I wouldnt have it any other way.
Thanks for all the helpful comments!
Post # 7
I think it’s totally fine since it’s basically two separate events.