Small Ceremony, then Family Gathering at home later?

posted 2 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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6343 posts
Bee Keeper

Sorry about the death of your father. It’s very nice of you to change your plans to help your mom. I don’t see anything wrong with having two smaller events. FI and I are marrying in a private ceremony and then several months later having a small celebration with our friends and family. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Sorry for you loss.I’m not married yet but we are doing something similar.

I have lost both of my parents and FI has also lost his mom. We got engaged in August and the next day my grandfather (only living family I had) passed away. 2 short months later my FI’s grandfather passed away from pancreatic cancer. It was horrible and I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Sorry for going off with my story…

But, because of all of our losses we decided it would be sad to have a “regular” wedding. We are going on a “weddingmoon”, that’s a once in a life time trip and it will be just the two of us. A couple of weeks later, we are going to have a reception with about 50-60 people. That way we can still have our special ceremony and celebrate with our friends. 

I don’t see a problem with what you are doing. I still think it is a wedding, but some bee’s get their undies in a wad because of people’s wording when it comes to these situations. I think you should try to enjoy your day as much as possible, because I know it will be hard with your loss. If years down the road, you don’t feel like it was enough, you can always do a vow renewal or something when your mom gets back on her feet. It’s great you’re helping her!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

No. I think that would be fine. Especially since they were going to be in the bridal party to begin with.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

That sounds reasonable. You’ll have your closest circle at the small ceremony and then celebrate with your larger circle.

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