Post # 1
I’m getting a lot of pushback from FI regarding planning a big wedding and, specifically, the budget. We are currently considering other options that will be more cost effective for us but still be a celebration as we don’t want to go the JOP route.
One thought I had was possibly having an intimate ceremony with our nearest and dearest friends and family (~50) followed by brunch or lunch where FI and I live. (almost everyone will be OOT)
This will be followed by an “at home” reception of sorts a month or two later, where we are both from (NY area). The larger party would be about 150 people and less formal than a wedding reception so I think would be cheaper than planning a wedding reception to include all 150 guests.
Did anyone do something like this?
Post # 3
That’s what we’re doing. I’m happy with how it’s going so far.
Post # 4
We’re actually planning the same thing–we had our wedding in December but are planning a big “celebration of marriage” party for this November. Go for it! It is less expensive, by far; because it isn’t a wedding, things can either be skipped entirely or cost WAY less (because there’s no “wedding” markup).
Post # 5
thanks, bees. will you be doing “wedding” things at the big party like garter toss, toasts, guestbook, etc. or will it just be a big party?
Post # 6
We are doing something like that.
We are getting married in my FI home town. We want a small ceremony with a dinner reception.
His parents live in a small town and wanted to celebrate with all their friends, neighbors and extended family. They understand that we just are not comfortable with having a big wedding.
The day after our wedding we will have a party at his parents house. It will much more relaxed and informal. I think it was a great compromise.
Post # 7
@NJmeetsBX: I’m doing most of what you mentioned…Dinner, DJ, 1st dances, favors, etc. It’s a pretty typical reception, just not with everyone we know…only family and our best friends.