Small gestures.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do actions speak louder than words?
    Yes : (38 votes)
    57 %
    No : (0 votes)
    I NEED both. : (29 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1625 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Laurenskii:  Actions definitely speak louder than words. i think once you’ve said it, saying “I love you” is easy to say. it’s a lot harder to go out of your way to DO something for someone else! The little things are definitely the BIGGEST things for me!

    Post # 5
    Member
    1112 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I want both, of course, who wouldn’t. But of course I’ll pick actions over words. 

    My Fi is a man of few words and it took him a long time to say I love you for the first time.  But he showed me he did long before he said it and i knew. 

    On the other hand, i have a friend who’s with a man who constantly showers her in talk and words of love and stuff, but he never and still doesn’t do what it takes to show her. Little things, like house work, big things like having a job (he was unemployed for almost 2 years!!!) and breaking promises, being late when he goes to pick her up. etc etc.

    I’ll take action over words anyday!

    Post # 6
    doilyMember
    1734 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

    DH has done stuff like that for me all the time and it melts me everytime. Couple that with pregnancy hormones and I’m a big ball of tears. The other day I was having a hard time sleeping and DH said we were going to try every maternity pillow until I can sleep well again. Cue the tears. LOL!

    Post # 9
    Member
    2851 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    My FI never does that stuff for me 🙁 … That’s it… He’s gettin a talkin’ too!

    Post # 11
    Member
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Words are easy to say and easy to become habit. Actions show the words are true. I appreciate both but couldn’t have just words without the actions to support them.

    Post # 12
    Member
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I need both. I don’t have to hear “I love you” 100 times a day, but once? Yeah, it’s nice, and I hearing it gives me a sense of security.

    Post # 13
    Member
    3128 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    DH says “I love you” or “You’re pretty” so often that I have started to ask why to make sure there is an actual reason and its not just conversation filler :p He also goes out of his way to show me all the time- he gets up every morning to take our dogs out so I can sleep in, he will make my coffee for me (he doesn’t drink coffee), and last night he brought home Oreo Blast ice cream from the grocery store for me even though I said I didn’t want anything. DH is a sweetie 🙂

    Post # 14
    Member
    712 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I need both. My husband comes from a very cold clan; he doesn’t remember his parents ever saying they loved him. I taught my husband about affection and love, though he was always quite romantic.

    My husband is very thoughtful about gestures and special getaways on important dates. The cards he gives me me swoon, along with the passionate emails and texts.

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