Post # 1
I am usually getting along with my MIL and actually like her most of the time, but sometimes her comments and suggestione REALLY bother me! Latest example: we are sitting in a restaurant and I order a crepe with Nutella (for breakfast) so she loudly announces “watch your weight”! Huh? There were about 7 other people at the table and my husband just said “mooooom”! BTW, she ordered eggs, bacon, toast and potatoes for herself. Also, she is obese-I am not kidding-at least 90 pounds too much, and I have a good figure (BMI 22-not stick thin but not fat at all!).
I know it is just little things like that, but they drive me nuts!!! Aaahhh! One time we went to a buffet and I put some white rice on my plate, so she proceeded to tell me that whtie rice “makes you fat”, while she shoveled 5(!) fried onion rings on her plate!!!
Anyway, it is obviously not a major problem but I HATE it when people tell me how and what to eat, ESPECIALLY when they have no idea what they are talking about! Anyone else have those little pet peeves?
Post # 2
Ilovetruffels: I have several….and i know all to well those comments from relatives on both sides….im heavy set but loosing weight at a steady rate….down 25lbs soo far (whoop whoop!). I eat healthy (healthier than 90% of the people who make comments!) I excerise, lead an active lifestyle and have a very physically demanding job! we are really healthy….but i have a slow metabolism…and have always struggled with weight no matter how hard i try! while we have stick thin relatives and friends who eat literally nothing but garbage (fast food 5-6 days a week….think mcdonalds most of the time)….guzzle pop….everything is fried and processed, eat candy/cakes/junk food all the time….. but they make sure and make comments about my weight and remind me to watch what i am eating for the wedding esp….
its annoying…and frusrating….these same people also NEVER work out and always stay thin but have no tone or defenition…but they think because they are thin they have the right to tell everyone how they should be with diet and exercise….
its annoying….and ive started just ignoring it….as hard as it is…
Post # 3
Wow, it is great that you lost so much weight! Yes, I guess that both thin and big people criticize weight, but I personally would never tell someone what to eat or make suggestions about their weight! I think some people have just no filter or manners. If you are a nurse you probably know way more about nutrition than them anyway:) Well, I admit I don’t always eat healthy, but I do work out, walk pretty much everywhere and have no health problems at all (just had a check-up). If I go to restaurant, which is rare, I want to indulge and not have someone tell me to curb myself. And it was just a damn crepe, I am from Europe and used to eat them all the time and did not gain weight;) I am also trying to ignore it, but it’s honestly one of those topics that drive me nuts. Good luck with your weight loss journey though-and maybe they are just “trying to help”-but I also usually don’t buy into that;)
Post # 4
Nobody likes my husband’s brother’s wife (I refuse to call her my SIL). Anyway, husband’s mom always gets the 6 of us together to go out to dinner for everyone’s bday, except mine because I refuse to allow that b***h at my bday dinner & I will never go to hers either…oK so the mom’s, dad’s, husband’s, & husband’s brother’s bday. The dinners are always so uncomfortable & just annoying. Me, my husband, & FIL don’t talk to the b***h, the brother only talks to me when she gets up & goes to the bathroom or whatever, and the tension is so thick that you need a steak knife to cut it. But it never fails that on their 4 bdays, mothers day, & father’s day, my MIL always has us 6 go to dinner. I hate it. I dread it every time. And it’s so annoying. Plus, the b***h always always always complains about tipping the waitress. She always argues with her husband about how much to tip. First of all its a party of 6 so you should always tip 20%…unless the server is horrible. But she’ll argue over a freaking dollar! And always makes her husband short tip them. I was a server & bartender growing up so I know what it’s like. She’s obviously never been…because she’s too b***hy and just doesn’t have the personality. It drives me insane. My MIL just won’t give up. She wants this big happy family & as long as my husband’s brother is married to that b***h, it’s just not gonna happen.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Her body weight (obese or not) is completely irrelevant to the story. However, it is rude for her to bring up your nutritional choices in front of everyone like that. As someone who is fat, I find that sometimes the best way to handle “well-meaning” relatives is to just go “Mhm. Anyway, Shirley, what do you think about the Ravens making it back to the Superbowl next year?” or whatever else to change the topic. Calling her out on it in the moment, while satisfying, just makes you look defensive and her look like the poor put-upon old lady who’s just trying to help. THEN, later, have your FI (since it’s your MIL, not your mom) say something to her – “Hey, it really hurts LoveTruffles’ feelings when you say that shit. Her body is none of her concern, and you need to stop.”
Post # 6
Ilovetruffels: My MIL does the same thing…..”Bridey77, have you tried this high protein oatmeal? It’s really good for people who are dieting”……Uhm, who said I was on a diet?????????
I’m betting your MIL is just projecting her own insecurities on to you. Good for you for brushing it off so easily, as annoying as it is. I’m not sure about my MIL, she is very slim and has never had a weight problem. I guess she is just embarassed for her son being with a fatty, lol. Too bad, cause he loves every inch!
Post # 7
rachel85: I didn’t mean to insult her with the comment about her weight on here. In fact I never would talk about anyone’so weight or weigt loss struggle because I know how hard and embarrassing it is. I used to be 30 pounds heavier, but that was back in HS when his mother didn’t even know me yet (and she had no idea that I used to be bigger). I do think it is ironic though, that someone, who needs to watch his/her own weight much more and is not even trying to be better (as evident from her food choices), is criticizing me. I really think she is trying to project her insecurities on me like another bee posted, but it bothers me that she does it on front of OTHERS the most. The idea with my husband telling her would work, if he wouldn’t always defend these kind of comments! When I talked to him about it he said “she is just making suggestions” blabla, which annoys me as well
Post # 8
Ilovetruffels: Comments about what you’re eating are a huuuge no no for me, how rude of her to do that!!! What you eat is very personal IMO. I am affronted over here with you!