Post # 1
So originally FI and I didn’t want to register because we don’t have a lot of space in our apartment. Plus we’ve been living together for almost 5 years and have a bunch of stuff already. So we started a honeymoon registry. But his aunt wants to throw me a bridal shower and so does my friend. So I have registered for a few things I need. But FI’s mom says that I should register for more stuff so people don’t run out of things to buy. She says we can register for things for our future home (which won’t be for another few years) and store it at her place. But my taste changes quickly…I don’t want to register for a shower curtain that I will be using 3 years from now. Seriously, I don’t really need all this stuff.
What should I do? Just register for more things? Or somehow let people know we prefer any gifts to go towards our honeymoon registry? I’m afraid if I don’t register for things, I will end up with monogramed towels and crystal vases and such. People love to give actual gifts!
Post # 3
How about the kind of things that wont change with your taste or that you can upgrade from what you have now?
-silver wear / flatwear
-cool cook’s tools that you’ll be excited to use in the kitchen (like cake decorating things or avocado pitters, etc)
-wine of the month club?
I have no idea what you already own, but I hope those ideas help even a little!
Post # 4
@Eliann i was in a position very similiar to yours…except my fiancee disagreed with me and thought his mom was right and we needed to register for things that we might not “need” now but would “want” in the future.
They both said that you’ll always buy your “needs” but you’ll never really get around to buying/being able to afford your “wants.” Weddings are the time where people really get a kick out of buying you what you “want”
With that being said, I ended up caving and registering and now after my bridal showers, I have a lot of gorgeous things that I certainly don’t need and might not have even wanted (china!) but love just the same now that they’ve been gifted to me since they were a)gifted to me by friends/family b)picked out with my fiancee just by ourselves
so if you do decide to register for “things”, make sure it’s stuff you like and want…hope this helps a llittle! good luck!
Post # 5
For a shower I’d say most people will give a tangible gift. Which leaves you with a few options. 1 turn down either you Aunt or friends offer for a shower. 2. Register for more stuff 3. Be gracious about receiving random stuff picked by your guests.
If you really really don’t want the tangible gifts I’d ask to have just one small shower.
Post # 6
Thanks girls! I think I will just register for more things, since I’ve already agreed to a shower. I wish registries had a way that you could list your preference for things in order of must haves and wants. Actually amazon’s registy does do this, but older people don’t shop online so I’m not registering there. I’d hate to end up with that extra shower curtain when I really needed new plates. I guess most stores are good about exchanges?