Small Wedding Etiquette

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

MrsSJO:  “I don’t think it’s okay to invite people to an engagement party or shower without them being invited to the wedding.”

You are completely right. Anyone invited to a pre-wedding party must be invited to the wedding. 

You mentioned that you are a little bit sad that you won’t be able to invite many people. I wonder if you could accommodate everyone with a simple reception like cake and punch? Or could you save up in the two years between now and your wedding? If you really want people there, there are ways to do it without spending more than you can afford.

Post # 4
1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am having a “small” wedding and I am not planning on having a wedding shower. I don’t know if we will have a rehearsal dinner, and we skipped the engagement party as well. It just didn’t make sense to have those events for a small amount of people. I thought it would be weird because some people would not be able to atten both. I would have only invited people who I was unable to invite to the wedding, which could be considered strange as well. 

We don’t have the funds to have a gigantic wedding, but even if we did, we would have put it towards a longer and more expensive honeymoon or the future in general. I suppose folks may still want to come celebrate with you even if they cannot attend the wedding. If I had the funds, I would have maybe had a wedding shower, where I provided good food, drinks, music, etc to make it more of a party, so it would not seem too awkward. Good luck, either way!

Post # 5
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Excalibur

We’re just having our mom’s at our ceremony in Vegas. We won’t be having any showers or parties. On of my friends keeps asking about a bachelorette party but I don’t think it’s appropriate since no one is coming to the wedding.

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