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    luli29    October 9, 2010   Massachusetts

    I'm going back and forth between having a larger wedding (100 people or so), or a small one (just intimate family, 13 people total)

    Honestly, my head is spinning from going back and forth, and I kind of feel of just doing the small wedding at this point.

    My family is Catholic, as are my fiance and I (although we don't attend church on a regular basis).

    Question is: I really would like to have a Catholic ceremony...but I just feel it would be/look soooo ridiculous to have 13 people in a church. I would feel dwarfed by the space around me.

    Has anyone seen a small wedding in a church...would that make sense?

     

     

     
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    sleepylittlesailor    november 21, 2009  

    i don't think it would be ridiculous at all! it's not a broadway show, where you want to fill up all the seats.... if that's where your heart is, definitely go for it!

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    I think it is kind of romantic... such a private ceremony. Go with your heart!

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I think a church with just your loved ones sounds great.  It'll be such a special day for you all.  I say if you want the small wedding, do it!

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    We had 80 people in a church that seats nearly 1000. So yeah, we were dwarfed by the space, but it was fine. You should get married in the place that is most meaningful to you, regardless of how your number of guests will look while in the building. It won't matter at all!

     
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    A lot of larger churches have smaller chapels.  Perhaps get married in the chapel if you feel the church is too big.

    I know several DW brides that wanted to get married in the Catholic church.  They had their DW, then had a smaller ceremony in the chapel of our church.

     
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    OttawaBride2011    May 21, 2011   Ottawa, Ontario

    if you don't have a church that is special to you, you could try to find something smaller. catholic churches are usually pretty big, but like some other posters said, some do have smaller chapels.

    in the end though, if you truly want a catholic ceremony, then i don't see a problem with the church not being full! it's about the 2 of you anyways :)

     
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    DCarole    11/14/09   Dallas

    I agree with Chelseamorning.  My fiance and I are getting married at the church where we met and still attend.  The church sanctuary is huge, but they have a smaller chapel we plan to use.  The chapel holds 400 people, but we only anticipate 42 guests.  

     
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    poodle    April 1, 2010   California / Planning Process in Chile

    I think is totally fine! and very romantic just like the others said :)

     

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