Small Wedding – Kid's table or no kid's table?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

JJMeantToBe:  You really can’t seat 4 children, one of who is a toddler, at a table by themselves and expect a peaceful meal. Even if the parents are nearby at the end of the long table, they will be up and down the whole meal. It also wouldn’t bode well for future relations with the SIL if you seat the parents at a separate table with their children.

I suggest you seat the 4 children between their two parents.


Post # 3
2460 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We also had a small wedding and didn’t want kids but made an exception for our neice and nephew. We sat them with their parents, at a table that was kind of at the end of the room. We knew the kids wouldn’t be able to sit still or stay quiet for speeches so it was our only option.

I agree with the PP that you should sit the kids with their parents.

Post # 4
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would seat the kids with their parents. A toddler isn’t going to be able to sit by herself at a table and eat, so the parents would end up moving over to the kids’ table anyway.

Post # 5
588 posts
Busy bee

Definitely no kids table. Their mom wanted them there, likely she wants to sit with them too. Four people isn’t enough for a table on their own, and a toddler really can’t be sat without adults anyway. Family tables make the most sense.

Post # 6
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Sit them with their parents.

Post # 7
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I thought the kids table idea was fine until you said there was a toddler. I would just pair the kids at the end of the long table with the parents across the table from eachother each sitting next to an adult. So each kid is sitting across from their sibling and the toddler can be directly next to one of the parents. 

If the other kids are much older, like 6, 7, and 8, and you have no space at the big table it may be okay to set them up at a kids table nearby and have the toddler with the parents.

It seems like this is not a discussion anymore but I also would have extended the invite to the children in your family since SIL’s kids are coming. I don’t know your wedding details or the ages of the kids but I would imagine it’s difficult to go to a destination wedding with your husband without your kids. They are attending because they love you, but since the kid “seal” is broken they might be a little sad to still go through the trouble.

Post # 8
1085 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Agree with the others. With the parents.

Post # 9
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Kids tables are just a recipe for disaster. With younger children, you are much more likely to get bad behaviour as supervision is more lax. With older children, they often feel offended that they are being sidelined.

Your seating plan should be as follows: parent – younger child – older child – older child – younger child – parent. That way you contain the children more effectively.

Post # 10
3644 posts
Sugar bee

I’d put his sister’s family at a separate table (6), or one with her parents (8), to make two tables seem more even.

She’s the one that had the hissy fit. I think sitting the kids at a big table, with all your guests, is a recipe for disaster. A formal, once-in-a-lifetime meal, with a toddler? No way …

Post # 11
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Kid’s tables are almost always a nightmare. For starters, you can’t ever assume that parents are prepared to be sat apart from their children and for sure, you can’t attempt to seat a toddler on its own unless you want sheer chaos to follow. 

I’d sit the parents with their children at the end of your table so that they can easily entertain their own children and, if necessary, take them out for a break easily without disturbing everyone else. 

Post # 12
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Following. I have at least 5 kids coming (youngest will be almost 3) possibly up to 10 kids (oldest is 15) if the older ones come I think we will do a kids table, that way the parents might not have to do as much With the older ones to entertain the little ones. 

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