Post # 1
we’re only inviting about 95 people to the wedding and anticipating around 80 actually come, which is a pretty small gathering compared to weddings i have been to. our bridal party, however, is huge in my opinion- 7 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen! this is mostly because we wanted to include all our siblings in the BP as well as our closest friends- i’m one of five and FI is one of four.
anyone else have a pretty big BP for the size of the wedding? if so, have you gotten any snarky comments? i have- a coworker told me that that size BP is wayyy too big for my wedding size and that the alter will be packed and would look weird. i don’t really care what others think- i’m just curious if this has happened to anyone else.
Post # 3
@dovelovesfalcon: Do whatever you want. I think weddings these days are much more relaxed. I’m having a small (40 people) casual beach wedding and have 6 Bms and 3 Gms. We wanted to have each of our daughters and close family/friends in the bridal party.
I have had people raise an eyebrow when I tell them this. I really don’t give a crap what they think! I don’t think you should either! It makes me mad when people offer their negative opinions.
Post # 4
i also have a large wedding party (6 bridesmaids and 3-4 groomsmen), and am expecting about 85 people (inviting 100). i have been chastised a little bit for it… i don’t really care, but i hate the disapproving looks! i’m close to these girls, and want them to be involved in my wedding. it won’t look weird at the altar. don’t worry about it, haha.
Post # 4
We have 5 attendants on either side. We invited about 150 including children and +1’s, but a lot of people would need to travel so we only anticipate about 1/3 to 1/2 of our list showing up. No one I have talked to cares about the size of the bridal party. The important thing is to include the people you want to include, and who cares if you get side-eye from anyone.
Post # 5
My wedding was 30 people, and we had three bridesmaids, two groomsmen, and two flower girls. Add the bride, groom and officiant, and that meant 1/3 of the attendees were standing! But I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Post # 6
Yes! i am having a small wedding (hopefully about 75-90 ish? Original plan was 50-60!!) and I have 5 bridesmaids and 1 MOH. Yikes. I haven’t seen that many in the pictures of previous weddings at my venue! It’s ok though! We are doing this our way, right? ☺️
Post # 7
Small wedding here! 35 people max and we’re each having 6 people stand up. Who cares! 🙂
Post # 8
my (current) wedding venue only seats 40 guests and the catering manager told me just last week during a conversation about space that she had a wedding the weekend before where the bridal party was 15 total plus bride and groom.
i think it’s fine to do whatever it is you want to do
Post # 9
I agree with others 🙂 do what makes you happy and involve your loved ones in the most meaningful way