Post # 1
If we cannot afford a big wedding now, is it acceptable to have a big one later? As in a renewal ceremony with the white dress, photographer, cake and a big reception? I want my dream wedding, but we cannot afford it and if I saved up for three or four years, we could (thinking about having it on fifth anniversary). There wouldn’t be any shower, and if we had bridesmaids/groomsmen we would pay for everything for them. Will this seem okey or silly? I’m getting married in a few weeks, but it’ll be small, with a small reception, no photographer, and most everything is cheap or diy.
Post # 3
I would think its kind of odd to have a whole big wedding as a renewal. Typically renewals are smaller and more intimate affairs. I would have waited to have my wedding until I could afford the big wedding you want. Just my opinion though.
Post # 4
I agree with PuntaCanaBride.
Post # 5
I just don’t want to put my life on hold to afford a wedding. People wise, it probably will be smaller, with just close friends and family, about 50 people, I mean bigger as in entertainment and expense wise.
Post # 6
@harleyanastasia: There is no reason you should put a hold on your life to have a more extravagant wedding. I think it would be fine to do a not so fancy one now then a “fancier” wedding in a few years when you can afford it.
Post # 7
I think that’s fine, but if it were me, I’d do a destination vow renewal and have a lovely ceremony on some beach followed by an elegant dinner reception.
My sister is having a vow renewal for their 20th (they married at 20) and it’s going to be very elegant and a destination renewal! I can’t wait for Vegas!
Post # 8
I don’t see a problem with that idea if that’s what you want to do. FI and I have discussed something similar, but we’re still having a wedding complete with all the typical things and 125+ guests. We fell in love with a gorgeous venue in the Rocky Mountains, but the cost for food/drink alone would have been $20K (our entire wedding budget!). But we’ve since agreed to have our 25th wedding anniversary there and invite a small group of our closest family and friends.
Post # 9
i think that’s a great idea!
Post # 10
that would be quite odd to be honest….how about a huge anniversary party??? you can have a huge reception with all the glits and glam to celebrate the longevity of ur marriage. thats what most people do what I have seen.
Post # 11
@cyndistar3 thank you! That’s what I plan on and my FH thinks its the best idea for us as well :3
@bellenga I’m considering that as well… maybe a small gathering in Italy, just a few close friends and immediate family? That would be amazing in my eyes..
@ritsi bitsi Wow! That’s 20 times our wedding budget! Lol, I think your idea for the 25th anniversary is great though!
Post # 12
It’s not something I would do after only 5 years, maybe 20 years. I like a PPs suggestion of doing a small renewal at a destination location that you have always wanted to go: Paris, Greece, Australia (these are places I want to go….but you get the picture )
Post # 13
I agree on maybe do it for 10, 25, or 50 years… Otherwise it’s a little strange.
You may also find that you’ll have other things that are more important to spend money on in five years, like kids, a house, or a wonderful vacation.