(Closed) Small wedding, ppl bringing UN-invited kids

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Completely rude. You have to call them.

I just don’t get it! Weren’t these moms brides just a few years ago? Don’t they remember not wanting kids or how expensive everything is?

Post # 4
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Agreed. You have to call them up and explain that you are sorry, but you haven’t the room to accomodate the children, and hope they are still able to make it but understand if they aren’t.

Post # 5
27 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am having the same exact problem…My wedding is even smaller…40 people max and a lot of my Fiance relatives just bluntly stated that the kids are coming. What even worse they are bringing them all the way from South America and we are talking about children I am talking about teenagers. SO RUDE….

Post # 6
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Some people don’t understand wedding etiquette of “Mrs. & Mrs” only being on an invitation. I’d politely call them and explain that children are not invited, only the parents. I’d leave out the budgeting reason.
We are also having a no childern wedding. We haven’t sent out invites yet but made the rule that my Fiance calls his friends/family and I call my friends/family if this situation arises.
But yes, you need to address the issue.

Post # 7
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ugh!  I feel for ya!!!  We wanted to keep our wedding very small, about 35 to 50 people. It has ballooned up to 68 because people have responded that they’re bringing uninvited children (mostly teenagers).  I don’t mind infants or small children, but teens eat a LOT of food and we have to pay a full adult price for them.  It’s really driving up our costs unexpectedly.  I just think it’s rude to assume you can bring as many people with you as you want to a wedding!!!

Post # 8
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wanted a non kids wedding and I have 3 girls and his brother & sisters has kids and everyone else does too so I couldnt exclude them. We started off with 32 kids coming ot a wedding that was for 110 but ended up only having around 15 kids. I was so scared that I was going ot be a pissed off bride but it went well. I had the dj announce no kids were allowed to go anywhere without a parent and they listened. If you have no luck in not having kids at your wedding make sure you put your foot down on how its going to roll with kids being there.

Post # 9
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I just found out that there are three extra kids coming to mine in a couple of weeks.  The only reason we found out is because we called the attendees about SOMETHING ELSE and they casually mentioned that so and so would be with them.  It amazes me how rude people are.  (That said, I am trying to bail on a wedding this weekend because I am just too exhausted getting ready for mine and I need a night off from wedding crap. So it goes both ways, I suppose.)

I would call them and tell them you don’t have the space, hence the ____ on their RSVP card. It’s not like it’s so close that they can’t get a babysitter, you know?

Post # 10
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Call them up and tell them no kids invited.

Post # 12
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Don’t let them do it.  Call them up (or if it’s a relative, ask your mom or Future Mother-In-Law to do it) and politely say that the space can’t accommodate all the kids.  Don’t let them get away with it!


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