small wedding save the date

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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895 posts
Busy bee

I think with only 40 people it should be easy to spread the word via word of mouth. I would say that’s how many people knew our date before we sent out ours.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ontbride: Unless you just have some save the dates in mind that you absolutely love, I would skip them. It doesn’t seem necessary to me. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Miss_Words:  +1

Save the dates are purely optional.  If you have some sort of craft project in mind that your excited about then go for it, but if not it’s unnecessary.

I personally sent my save the date via email as I saw it as a purely practical item and I needed to let people know asap (only 4 months notice of wedding, and it was a DW).  I used a downloadable free template from Wedding Chicks, saved is at a jpg, inserted it into the body of an email, added text at the bottom directing people to our website, and called it a day.  I got the whole thing done in like an hour, which was good because I was powering through building our website.

Because my guests are not all steeped in the wedding world, they thought it was great! Most older people don’t even know what a save the date is, so it’s not like they’ll miss it.  If you want to do something like that for tidy communication, I’d say to go for it!

http://www.weddingchicks.com/freebies/save-the-dates/ 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re having 40 guests at our wedding and we sent out STDs. Honestly, if you want to save money or don’t feel like you really need them then I’d skip it. I felt obligated to send them because 100% of our guests are coming from out-of-state and I wanted to make sure that all of them knew for sure when the wedding was so that they could make travel arrangements. I didn’t want anyone saying they forgot or whatever excuse.

If all (or most) of your guests are local then I don’t think its a big deal.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ontbride:  We are having a smaller nontraditional wedding reception in November that is last minute in wedding terms (just got engaged in July). I sent out invites last week, but didn’t feel need for STDs. I let my OOT guests know the date ahead of time though, so they could get started on arrangements. Maybe just let your OOT guests know ahead of time (word of mouth, FB message, whatever works). 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

We are having about 50 guests and sending out STD’s.  But we have some family members coming from out of town and June is a popular month for graduations LOL 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We’re having 50 people to ours and though it’s not traditional we’re still “following tradition” by sending out save the dates and invitations.

It’s worked out nicely so far – no issues yet!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ontbride: We had a small wedding, only 32 guests, but we still did the STDs. However, we did this because it was a destination wedding, so we really wanted to give people a heads up. We opted for magnets that we sent out by regular mail (I was worried we would have to pay extra but luckily they didn’t charge us extra just for them being magnets):

In retrospect it wasn’t perhaps strictly necessary to spend as much money as we did on these ones, but we both loved them and my entire family still have them on display on their fridges. Huge hit with the Swedish crowd that had never seen a magnet invitation before! 🙂

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