Post # 1
My fiance and I are having a very small wedding of around 44 to 46 guests with only maybe 10 to 12 of those people likely to dance. Our venue offers a separate, lower level floor for dancing for a $400 fee. We originally booked it but are now wondering if we should cancel that part of the reception and use that $400 to extend the amount of time our string quartet will play or something else for the guests. We’re worried that the dance floor won’t be properly utilized because of the small number of people. We’re in our late 20’s so a lot of our friends like to dance but there will be a few couples with small children/new borns so I’m thinking they won’t really have the chance or will be too tired…..am I right or wrong about that??
Have any of you gone to this small of a wedding and was there dancing?? Also, if we don’t book the lower level then we’ll be giving up the chance to do our first dance and father/daughter dance. Has anyone done their wedding, or been to a wedding, without that and did you feel like it was missing something or was it no big deal?? I know it depends on the group of people but I just wanted some input.
Post # 3
@ADogLover123: Is there any way you could talk to the venue and explain that only a couple of people would dance, maybe you could move a few tables around and have a mini dance floor upstairs? That would save you paying $400 for 10 people, plus having it downstairs could also ruin the party atmosphere a little as guests would be completely separated.
Post # 4
We had a VERY small wedding (20 people total) and we didn’t have dancing. However, we don’t particularly like dancing, so it was an easy decision for us. I think you should have it if you think you guys will personally enjoy it and have fun, but don’t have it if you’re doing it just because you feel like you’re obligated to because it’s a wedding.
Post # 5
@ADogLover123: I went to my friends wedding that had about 30 guests of varying ages. 75% of us danced for quite a while.
Post # 6
There’s a big difference IMO between 10 people dancing and 20 people dancing. I wouldn’t bother with a DJ/dancefloor if less than 20 people would utilize it.
Post # 7
I’m pretty torn on this one too! We’ll probably have around 30 people and I’m so unsure if we’ll have dancing or not. We’re really trying to keep costs down but also want it to be fun and can’t really imagine not having dancing.
But then again my cousin had a whole lot more people at his wedding & dancing didn’t make it fun at all. Nobody really danced much
Post # 8
Our wedding will consist of no more than 30 guests, and we’ll be having dancing. I can’t imagine not doing our first dance and my father/daughter dance (FIs parents won’t be attending so unfortunately she won’t get this) but that’s a significant part of the day for me. And I HATE dancing!
I would try to organise a small dance area upstairs in your venue. You’ll be surprised how many people get into the mood at weddings and start dancing (myself included)!
Post # 9
@ADogLover123: We’re having a wedding about the same size as yours (40-45 people) and we’re not having dancing. We’re not morally opposed to it or anything, but we’re not into it and we really doubt anyone will miss it. Our venue is small anyway, so dancing would be hella awkward and cramped if we chose to do it, but I’m going to tell our caterer to arrange the tables in such a way that there’s no way anyone would think there’s a dance floor. So obviously, we’re not having the first dance, father/daughter dance, etc. Those aren’t really important to us and it makes no difference whether we have them or not.
However, if those are important to you and you’ll regret not doing them, then you have to decide if it’s worth the extra money to have the dance floor.
You know your guests better than us. Do you think they could still enjoy themselves without the option of dancing?
Post # 10
Thanks for your input everyone!
In response to some comments. Unfortunately, our venue has strict rules about not dancing on the main floor. It’s an old Victorian style house that’s a museum by day so I guess I can understand why they’d want the dancing to be downstairs. That being said, I agree that it would likely just break up the guests into people upstairs, not dancing, and people downstairs dancing.
My fiance and I aren’t big into dancing at all and I know he’s completely fine without having any dancing at all. I think if the dance space was included we’d use it but we’d rather spend that $400 on something that will be more utilized.
Post # 11
If it is a large dance floor, I would say cancel and save the $400. As someone else suggested, see if you can create a small dance floor within the space you have.
You do not want a large empty dance floor.
Skip the DJ and pay the string quartet for extra time. They can provide some music that folks can dance to. You will have first dance, etc. and some dancing for guests.
I had a small wedding with a string quartet. Worried that folks would miss the DJ. Scared to do something different than what I had seen at every wedding I had ever been to. In the end, received many compliments. A DJ will overwhelm a small wedding. A friend with a microphone can do just as well at a small wedding making announcements.
Small weddings are great, but it is easier at a large wedding to create that party atmosphere where folks get up and dance.