Small wedding/gift etiquette

posted 2 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

emilyluwest:  I wouldn’t mention anything about gifts on the invite.  Go ahead and register, and let your mom know where you’re registry is, so she can pass it along if any of the guests ask her 🙂

Post # 3
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

emilyluwest:  What she said. There should never be anything abouit gifts on the invitation for a wedding. It is ok for a shower since, by definition, a shower is a gift giving occasion.

If people want to give you a gift, they will.

Post # 4
6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would register but not mention anything about gifts on the invite. People will ask if they want to know, or they can just google your names.

Post # 6
11607 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You never mention gifts on an invitation.  To do so is rude.

You could register, but I wouldn’t expect gifts from all your guests.  Some people view this as rude, because you’re still suggesting gifts for them to buy you, even though you didn’t want them at your actual wedding (for whatever reason).  It’s similar to why you wouldn’t have a bridal shower in this circumstance.

Post # 7
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

emilyluwest:  you never mention gift in invitation if people feel the need to ask you where you register then you can tell them

Post # 8
8388 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

emilyluwest:  Like other PPs said, don’t put anything about gifts on the invite.  What we did was list our wedding website on the invite, and the website had a links to our registry, accommodations, maps, wedding events, etc.

Post # 10
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015


emilyluwest:  Me and SO are planning on doing the same thing as you when our time comes (still not engaged yet), but we are going to have a family only wedding ceremony (25 ppl tops) and then have a reception at a later date.  I had the same idea as @housebee to list the wedding website on the invite for RSVP and there will be a tab with links to the registry for those who are interested! 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  LWatson1618.
Post # 11
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with everyone else. Go ahead and register and just don’t mention anything about gifts unless someone asks. For the record, I’d bring a gift and appreciate the registry, even if I had to ask you/your mom/your MOH for the registry info.

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