Post # 1
I see a lot of very gorgeous wedding ideas on here, but I haven’t seen anything about small, simple, intimate weddings.
Nothing against all you ladies with very lovely, traditional, larger weddings. I just want to know if anyone else is going very basic, sticking to just the simple meaningful touches? I’m having a mostly family wedding and cutting out a lot of the more traditional aspects of a wedding.
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
colleenichole: Yep! Our guest list is 24 people..and we’re getting married in our backyard. Both FI and I have been on quite a journey and wanted the people there who have been so very supportive of each of us (separately and together)…and what better place to do that than at our home :).
We are having the ceremony in the backyard and then taking everyone out for dinner at a 5* Steakhouse: here’s your menu, order what you want, we will cover the bill.
At some point during the evening, we will give each couple/person an envelope with a letter in it from us – handwritten – thanking them for all their support and love.
I can’t imagine doing our wedding any other way than intimately, with the most important people in our lives.
Post # 3
LDay1983: That is a wonderful idea! I started to plan a typical wedding inviting the extended family, friends, etc. Then I quickly realized I dread the idea of a big wedding, with the giant cake and venues and the whole 9 yards. I agree on only needing the most important people!
Post # 4
We’ve selected 50 people (including wedding party) for our wedding and that number may go down depending on who can/can’t come. We’re having our ceremony/reception at the same venue and the mostly everything will be DIY.
We wanted an intimate wedding because we want to be able to have fun and talk with all of our guests. We also didn’t want to feel stressed out and we wanted it to be those nearest and dearest to us. Plus we’re paying for the whole thing and the more people the more expensive it gets, which usually means that there’s more pressure/stress to make everything “perfect” because you’ve spend $30,000.
Do what you feel is right for the two of you and forget the rest. I personally love weddings with personality and not ones that are all about choosing a wedding from box A,B or C
Post # 5
Our wedding has only about 50 people on the invite list and realistically only expect about 30-35 to show up. We just wanted our close family and friends to be there. We are having a church wedding, but doing all of the decorations ourselves and the food.
We are having an evening wedding (7pm) and getting married by candlelight w just finger foods and cake afterwards. Nothing fancy here, but it suits both of our personalities.
Post # 6
colleenichole: our wedding was +- 75 people, BUT, because we knew a lot of guests were older and/or had kids at home we knew that a substantial amount of our party would leave after dinner. That left us with about 20- 30 people for most of the night who partied, chatted and danced the night away. For that reason we also cut out the garter/ bouquet toss and we incorporated the first dance into ‘opening’ the dance floor. To be honest, I would have had an even smaller wedding if I knew then what I know now.
Post # 7
Me! We are having 14 people, including ourselves, and getting married on a beach in the Scottish Highlands. We are not very ‘traditional’ people and I have been married before and had the BIG white wedding so just couldn’t face it again. I am so looking forward to a relaxed and informal day and not feeling under pressure for things to be a ‘certain’ way. Not that bigger weddings can’t be informal, but with a lot of guests I think you need a bit of structure to the day and I am more of a go with the flow person!
Post # 8
Depending on what state we end up getting married in, there will likely be anywhere from 15 people to maybe 35. We’re looking at a probable restaurant reception so there will be many “traditional” aspects missing but not missed!
Post # 9
We are having 23 guest total. We are having a ceremony at a local park and then an intimate dinner at a nice restaurant after. No clean up, no decorations…just all the people we love most in the world!
Post # 10
HDJacobson: are you having cake?? I really really want cake at my restaurant! I’m hoping it’s not too difficult to get the restaurant to serve cake made by an outside baker
Post # 11
colleenichole: We had a super tiny wedding- only 4 guests! It worked great for us, we loved it so much! We are both very practical so there was no way we could have spent the big bucks on a wedding knowing about a million other places that money would do good… We nixed most every tradition as well- no garter toss, no BM/GM’s, no reception (just a dinner & cake), no dancing, no bouquet toss, no dad walking down the aisle… It was so nice to be able to take my time and relax the day of the wedding- my biggest worry was where to put my bobby pins! I don’t regret it one bit- you have to do what makes you two happy!
Post # 12
colleenichole: We had a whopping 26 people invited to our wedding (including us!). I wanted to elope, he wanted to have everyone there and this was an amazing compromise. We are anything BUT traditional and we cut out a lot of the traditional elements.
We saw each other in the morning of our wedding, texted through out the day, didnt have showers or bachlorette/bachelor parties, had an amazing 4 course family style dinner at a local brewery, had dirt cheap centreprices, no bouquet toss, no dances, NO SPEECHES. We did thank you notes for each of our guests as place cards. After the dinner, we hung out and TALKED to all of our guests. There was no worry of not getting to talk to eveyone. We laughed, drank and ate the night away and I wouldnt have had it any other way.
We havent gotten all of our pro photos back but I have been debating on doing a recep of the wedding when we do (hopefully this week!). I can honestly say that that was the most amazing day – I got to marry my best friend and one true love, surrounded by people that love us, with an amazing amount of support and love coming from every last one of them. We didnt go into debt doing it either 🙂
I honestly think that weddings have been sensationalized and over commercialized. The real reason for the wedding is forgotten and many of us get wrapped up in ‘Our day’.
Post # 13
We had a small wedding! 16 guests plus us. We had an outdoor ceremony and then dinner in a private room at a lovely restaurant. It was perfect, and I will definitely be posting a recap when we get our pictures back. 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
<br />You may enjoy this thread dedicated to small weddings http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/the-small-wedding-thread-less-than-40-guests/#axzz2v6uLeXLF
Post # 15
We were originally planning an elopement, but that wasn’t going to work for us, so we’ve decided on a small wedding. We haven’t finalized a guest list yet, but if it gets to more than 40 people I’ll be shocked.
The family that would actually come to my wedding is not that large, and I frankly just don’t know a lot of people. We’re not even planning to have a wedding party, because doing so would actually eat a large chunk of our guests lol