(Closed) Small weddings becoming a trend?

posted 6 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s probably a product of the economy.  I mean, sure, some people want to share their day with only their nearest and dearest, but honestly it’s cheaper to feed 50 people than 150 people!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m inclined to pin it on the economy. We have been invited to a lot more DW and the one HUGE wedding we attended was hosted by the bride’s family that are extremely wealthy. I don’t know if they’re less elaborate persay, but I think B+G are more selective and shopping around for what’s really them and what they love and can afford, versus what everyone else is doing.

I think a lot of couples now also realized it’s okay not to invite the whole entire community and that they want to be able to recognize every face at the wedding. That’s the case for us for sure. For us, it would’ve reduced catering costs and floral/linen costs with each name we cross out but we had a lot of stuff that wouldn’t change regardless of head count. The venue, DJ, photobooth, etc. would’ve stayed static regardless of 10 people or 300 people.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Think it might be a recession thing. Although saying that, my fiance and I are having a small wedding as we only invited cloase family and friends (we prefer it that way) plus it keeps the costs down 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I definitely think it’s an economy thing.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t think it’s a trend.  None of my friends had a wedding with less than 200 people at it in the last few years.  My wedding, however, is capped at 35 people.  We only want the nearest and dearest with us and find it unecessary to spend an elaborate amount of money on a wedding when we can spend that on our house, honeymoon, a new car.. or anything else we might need!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Maybe the economy is taking its toll or if they are like me maybe they don’t see any point in inviting a bunch of people that they don’t know or don’t see. My wedding is small, mostly because I’m having a destination wedding, but also because that is what we wanted. It’s still going to be pretty darn elaborate though I still have a rather normal-large budget even with my 22 person guest list. We didn’t skimp out on anything because there are less people, in fact, we splurged on better food ect…Perhaps having a more personal and intimate wedding is becoming more important to people than beating the Genis Book of World records for largest wedding guest list.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think it’s an economy thing. I think it’s just a backlash over how expensive weddings are now days. When my parents got married they had 350 people and the cost was no big deal. They said they made 5x in gifts what their wedding cost. They got married in a recession and were young and had no money.

I spent $370pp on my wedding. It’s not relative at all to inflation.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It might be partly because of the economy, but also the internet makes it easier to find examples of small weddings and hear positive reports from people who have had small weddings which could popularize the idea or at least make people aware that it’s perfectly acceptable to do it that way. The personalities of some B&Gs just fit better with a smaller wedding and as B&Gs rise in age, pay for their own weddings and/or just have more say in their wedding planning, they may choose to pare things down. It seems like a lot of pressure to have a big wedding comes from families. So I would think a big factor would be how much input the B&G have when planning the wedding. I would not choose to have a big wedding no matter what my economic situation was because big, for me, would mean that not everyone there was family or a close friend, and those are the only people I want there. And having a smaller wedding just sounds more pleasant to me.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I had a small wedding of 100 (for a mexican that is small,lol) by choice. We chose to spend most of our money to buy a house instead of a big fancy wedding. 🙂 I loved it because I got a chance to talk to everyone at my wedding. I have been to big huge weddings where I dont even get to say hi to the bride and groom. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it’s the economy – who knows when you’ll be out of a job and you’ll wish you hadn’t spent 20k on one day?

But also, I think there’s a trend aspect to it as well. We tend to emulate the weddings we go to, and with more people on a budget (because their parents are tightening their belts, or because they’re paying for the wedding themselves), and with more people getting married older, when you’re less interested in having the big guest list, the big venue, the big dress, the big hassle — more of the weddings we go to are smaller, so more of us tend to imagine our own weddings as smaller. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I have the opposite experience. The weddings we’ve been going to lately are more elaborate than the ones from prior years. As well as the kids birthday parties. EESH. Those are like weddings nowadays!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree with PP, it’s very likely a product of the terrible economy.  I think it’s not just the recession though.  Think about it, 50 years ago it was not uncommon to have a big wedding, buy a house, and start having children within the same year.  It was also not uncommon for the woman to be able to stay home with the kids.  People (men usually) earned enough money to afford all of that.  These days you have to be very wealthy to pull all that off within a year.  So, even though I’m sure the recession does play a part in the last few years, I don’t think that’s all there is to it.  Even 10 years ago (pre-recession) people frequently had to choose between an elaborate wedding, buying a house, and having kids because there just wasn’t enough money in most families to do all three right away.

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