Post # 1
We have registered for only a few things (about 35) and that is stretching it- we don’t really even need the 35 things we have registered for. My question is this: will people be more likely to give us cash gifts. Because we have so much stuff we are secretly hoping for cash gifts, but would NEVER be so rude as to say this to our guests.
Post # 4
I think some people usually give cash and some people usually give a gift. If someone who usually gives a non-cash gift sees that your registry items are already purchased, they might be more likely to buy something that’s not on your registry than to give you cash.
Post # 5
I’m gonna try to do that too. I’m also only trying to put expensive items in our registry in hopes our guests will opt for cash gifts instead. I don’t know how that’s gonna work out…
I do think it’s important to have a registry for your bridal shower and for those guests who won’t dare to think of giving cash. You can also start a honeymoon fund if you need money for that..
Post # 6
I would think that registry or not, if people want to give money they will.
In the mean time I have registered for a few things that we do need, but also I have a gift card registry for stores that do not have traditional registry’s. Bass Pro Shops, a couple of resturaunts for on our honeymoon, and master card or amex gift cards. If they get them great, if not that is fine as well.
Post # 7
Yeah, it’s not like I am actively fishing for money, but, really, I’m just not going to register for things that I don’t need.
Post # 8
Be careful with this one…
I read a post on here a long time ago when I was first planning my wedding, and a bride didn’t register for much and ended up getting a bunch of frames and knick-knacks. People aren’t necessarily just going to give you cash if you don’t register for much.
Register somewhere like Target where you can return unlimited items for gift cards that you can then in turn use for groceries, detergent, etc. and other things you will ALWAYS need.
Post # 9
I was thinking about this, but some people (especially for showers) only will give a gift. might as well get something you like than something they pick themselves!
Post # 10
I got a lot of our gifts as engagement/shower presents, so a month or 2 before the wedding we took any items that we didn’t really want off. When the wedding rolled around, we only had a few things left. We really wanted money over more silly gifts, especially since we live in a teensy 1 bedroom apartment. We made a lot of money, and the people who wanted to buy us gifts bought us something they thought was special.
Post # 11
OP: I’m in the same boat as you, although we are in need of lots of household and kitchen items, which is why we registered at Bed Bath and Beyond. We also chose them because of their completion program where you get 10% off everything that isn’t bought from your registry, and they have an excellent return policy.
Basically, because it’s too tacky to outright ask for money, we’ve asked our Moms to spread the word if anyone asks them what we want. They are happy to do our dirty work, haha!!
Post # 12
I had a small registry (about 30 things) and a large guest list (about 180 invited), and we only got about half of what was on the registry, and the rest was cash gifts. We didn’t get too many random nicknacks, and the ones we got were nice.
Post # 13
Just went to Bed Bath & Beyond to register…you can return your registry gifts for cash!!
Post # 14
well i had 2 registries for the bridal showers (2 of them), and people bought gifts off of that. I did not re-register for the wedding. Russians give money as gifts. So i assumed the other half of the wedding would give cash. Nope. they bought out my registry. There was literally NOTHING left on my registry. And i got a random combo of things (toaster, cutting boards and a spatula?) Good thing i registered at macys – i have plenty of money to go clothes shopping now 🙂
Post # 15
@Diana R.: Really? I asked about the Bed Bath and Beyond in my area and they said exchange for merchandise. Maybe only in New York???
Post # 16
The last wedding I went to literally had under ten items on their registry. They, too, were hoping for cash. But, as I knew the couple, I knew that if I gave them cash, they were likely to spend it at the bar. I ended up getting them a two tiered chip and dip server. So I guess it will depend on your guests, not what you put on your registry.