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Another question I'm wondering is... how do you make people understand that you're NOT doing it?
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ugh, i hate this. yiska, if you have any ideas, please send them my way! i don't want to seem like a debbie downer but i *hate* this!!
ps -- is that the technical term for this? =)
At a family wedding a few years ago they also didn't like the clinking thing, so if the people at a table wanted them to kiss, they needed to sing a song to the bride and groom with the word "love" in it. Cute idea.
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I don't know if I even like the idea of kissing in front of everyone after the ceremony. It seems like performing too. I think people are much more tied to that ritual than the clinking glasses though.
I don't know if there's a name for it... I'd be much more willing to perform for a song though too, yeah....I've seen that idea too Natalie.
Uh NO - My DJ will have specific instructions to let people know, clinking will not get you a smoochie!
We are tossing around ideas right now of what to do in it's place:
Make them sing asong with love in it
Make them Hula Hoop or something equally finny
Make them kiss if we have to kiss - pull a name outo f a hat thing (which would bring the clinking back in but at least we;d be taking someone down with us..hehe)
I'm still trying to find something unique and fun.
This never even occurred to me before my wedding, but people did this. It isn't my thing and we told them that the next person to do it would have to give a speech (which made them stop!). I wanted to just enjoy my dinner instead of add yet another thing we HAD to do that night.
I went to a wedding recently where the bride & groom had a different thing planned for each "clinking". They slapped five one time, another time they bowed... and people got the idea. It was a cute idea.
I went to a wedding last year where the couple didn't want to do the glass clinking thing. So instead the MC said if you would like to see the bride and groom kiss, you need to need to kiss your sweetie first. At first nobody joined in, but then his grandparents got up and went to the Mic and said "Married 45? years and still in love" and then kissed. it was cute, soon all the aunts and uncles, and guests took their turn to go up to the mic. Me and my FI were friends of the groom, but we had just gotten engaged the night before so we went up and he said "engaged 19 hours" and gave me a kiss.
It was really cute to see how long everyone had been together. Although now typing it out, it does sound like a lot of extra kissing.
My cousin and his wife - big golfers - had a putting green strip thingy up in front of the head table. If you wanted them to kiss, you had to get up and sink a putt. It all was great until once, when the entire bridal party was standing up and leaning over to watch the putt, they pushed a little too much and the entire head table went over.
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Of course it's the technical term gals! Yeah, I'm not sure I want to smooch in front of everybody either. I'm trying to decide if we are going to partake in this or not...if we do, it'll have to be more creative and more exciting than clanking of glasses. Any other ideas? We're having a candy themed wedding - so something "sweet" would be good. :)
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I went to a wedding where you had a sing a song that had something to do with kiss (i.e. kiss was in the lyrics or the band name) it was very fun 
I'm not a big fan of the clinking either...
I recently went to a wedding over seas , the FOB had to explain the whole clinking thing. I like the sing a song idea! But I don't knot if my FI would go for it.
I get annoyed with the clinking of the glasses or bell ringing for a kiss thing, too. After a while, you can tell the bride and groom start to get annoyed with it and they just want to finish their dinner in peace.
I went to a wedding where they did the thing where your whole table had to stand up and sing a song with "love" in it. It worked really well and I think every table sang. Lots of fun!
At a recent wedding, the bride and groom had the DJ announce right before the toast that they will only do a glass-clinking kiss for everyone once. He had everyone get the glass clinking out of their systems right then and the bride and groom shared a nice, long kiss. That did the trick since no one clinked for kisses the rest of the night. I think I will have the DJ do this at my wedding.
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Generally if the clinking starts happening and the bride and groom don't kiss, they'll get the idea. It really depends on who your guests are though...at some weddings it won't even come up.
I really dislike this too! Lots of great ideas here on the board. I especially like the one about the DJ doing it right away and getting it out of the guests' systems! Thanks!
How weird - I have never, ever seen this. Is it maybe a regional thing? Seriously, I have never seen it or heard of it.
One knottie bio I saw a while ago had the guests write haikus and read them for the couple to kiss- I think it's great cause then the couple has some fun poems to keep...
i wanna bend over and have the hubbs kiss my a**! hahahah ok kidding!
but seriously - this glass thingy annoys the sh!t out of me - how do you get your guests to NOT do it??
Oh, I hate this. I've seen the "sing a song" "tell a funny story" done instead, but it still gets old.
I do like the "kiss your sweetheart first" but I wish people would get the point - we're gonna kiss anyways, we just got married. You don't need to tell us to kiss!!
I've been to a wedding that had the putting green too. You had to sink your putt in one shot to get them to kiss. No issue with knocking over the head table though :)
One of the few things my fiance has been vocal about is not kidding when people clink their glasses. His theory is that if we ignore it, it'll stop. We'll see how that goes!
It is funny what clinking on glasses means in different cultures:
Half of my culture clinkng on the glasses means that you kiss.
The other half, clinking means that you want to stand up and give a speech to the Bride and Groom.
I personally love the clinking and kissing.
I think guests get sick of it pretty soon too, so I really hope this happens with us. Most weddings I've been to lately it's only done about twice at each wedding.
I don't mind the clinking it just gets annoying after awhile so there should be a cut off time hahha
I always do this at every wedding I go to...and I have a feeling payback is a B...
I think it will happen anyways so don't worry about it, just take small bites :)
We're doing the sing a song w/ Love in it...but just in case FI wants to make a sign that says, "We don't kiss for clinks!"
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Any of you doing the clinky glass kiss thing? Where did this tradition come from anyway? Anyone doing anything creative with this tradition?
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