Post # 1
My FH recieved an e-mail from his maternal grandfather today. It’d be tragic if it weren’t so funny. These are our (adorable!) REAL typewriter typed save the dates:
You’ll notice that while the envelopes are capitalized (mostly for the sake of sorting machines), the cards are all lowercase (a. because it’s cute. b. because it’s hard to use the shift key on my grandma’s typwriter)
We thought they were adorable and reflected our personalities. The invites will be more formal, but we wanted something a little more casual and fun for the ave the dates.
Here’s part of the e-mail my FH’s Grandfather sent him today. We’re amused/shocked. How mean!
“Thank you also for using capital letters in addressing the envelope. That showed respect for the mailman. I must confess that the style of the note was shocking. I suppose it is some new kind of fad, but to my generation it looks like it was done by a kindergartner who has not learned how to use capitals.
Since the envelope shows that is not the case, it must be a rebellion against polite society. It made me realize that we use capitals at the beginning of a sentence for the benefit of the reader and we capitalize the first letter of proper names to show respect for the person. Good etiquette focuses on others instead of ourselves.”
YIKES! I should just tell him now–he’s going to hate our whole wedding.
Post # 3
WOW what an ahole. I think some people use old age as an excuse to be really mean. I hope he is so offended by your “rebellion against polite society” that he does not come to your wedding so you won’t have to worry about him judging you the whole time!
Post # 4
Awww lol, I think i would be kinda hurt by that, but hey, at least you can see the humor in it! I think our grandparents generation doesnt get the whole “save the date” thing anyways
Post # 5
Kind of reminds me of when I was 13 and wrote a thank you note to my step-Grandfather, who was a pediatrician. I addressed it to Mr. Bill Smith. He returned it with the Mr. crossed out and the Dr. replaced. My little 13 year old self was crushed.
Post # 6
I don’t know what’s up with him, but FI’s parents love that kind of stuff (same generation as your FGIL). They would have thought it was super cute and even if they didn’t there is no way they would have sent such a rude e-mail. I’d be half-tempted to write something back spelled and capitalized horribly that reprimanded him for being so rude and causing such a breach of etiquette by making that sort of complaint over e-mail.
Post # 7
I’m sorry but I laughed out loud when I read that. HAHAHA I personally think its funny but then again, its not my grandfather or my FI’s grandfather. Old people can be so picky, sorry about him being snarky! O well, I wouldnt let it bother me, just laugh at it! I think its cute btw, the STDs and envelopes!!
Post # 8
hahah you should write him back an email in ALL CAPS letting him know that he offended you.
YOUR EMAIL MADE US UPSET. THIS IS HOW OUR GENERATION SHOUTS VIA EMAIL. HOPE YOU LIKE ALL CAPS!
PS, cool that your fgil uses the computer, not cool that he uses it to spread meaness…seriously!!!!!!
Post # 9
Oh, Soon2BeMrsCLW3–My fiance and I just laughed SO Hard over your post! Thank you! 😀
Post # 10
Very cute save the dates. Very weirdly offended grandpa! Don’t worry about it, I know many rigid seniors. Just tell him the wording is a part of the wedding theme/style. No disrespect intended.
OR if you are really bothered by this, you could send him a new save the date where the names are capitalized…but that’s up to you if you want to put that much effort into it.
Post # 11
Soon2BeMrsCLW3 – That is a great idea!
I had to bust out laughing when reading this post & comments.
Good thing my Grandfather isnt like that because my dad ONLY writes in caps!
Post # 12
HAHA no worries! Glad I provided a laugh for the day. 🙂 Seriously, who would think a grandpa would act like that?!??!!?!
I guess as soon as the wedding planning begins, any and everyone has the potential to really show out! lol.
Post # 13
lol @Soon2BeMrsCLW3. hehe.
Post # 14
wow…. I have no words for that one lol.
Post # 15
OMG! what a grumpy old man!
I would not have been able to control myself and would have sent him a super snarky email back, but I know it’s probably not the best advice (:
Ugh, it’s both funny and annoying. I love the “Good etiquette focuses on others instead of ourselves.” so by his own admission, he should have sucked it up even though the invitation was not up to his standards, because this is not about HIM.