Post # 1
We’re looking into DJs in our area and there’s one we really like based on reputation. However, as we continue to check the website, we weren’t as sure as before. Most of the things they said indicates they will only work with couples who are holding their wedding at the most expensive locations in town. We’re willing to splurge on great music (well, my FI is willing) and amazing lighting and draping, but this isn’t right to put down anyone who is holding a wedding at a back yard or average catering hall.
Are most DJs are snobs despite the couple can afford it?
Post # 3
That sounds weird. I would contact them and ask if they would play your venue. Do they think playing at a cheaper venue will make them seem “lesser” or something?
Post # 4
From what I gather, vendors who have good working relationships will often cross-recommend each other. It may be that the venues have added those particular DJs to their insurance riders and the DJs have the sound equipment and set-up for those particular spaces. As such, the DJs may be pricing themselves in accordance with the venue’s pricing; if the venue is trying to bill itself as a high-end event space, the other vendors should fit that image.
Ultimataly, though, it’s all a business, so it’s probably worth an email. I wouldn’t go about apologizing for the venue that you’ve chosen–just a simple, “We’re getting married on X date at Y place with Z budget, and are wondering if you are available.”
Post # 5
@RedHairing: I did asked and they are available on our date. We’re thinking about checking their showcase but reading stuff from their blog make me want to change my mind. Here’s an excerpt from a recent blog post:
We’ll be the first to tell you — we’re not for everyone. To start, if we feel you don’t have the same level of commitment for your own wedding that we will have for it, we cannot work for you. Every so often couples seek us out because they’ve heard of our reputation and track record and think that by hiring us their wedding will unfold exactly the way they want. They think: “We hired the best, so everything will automatically be perfect!” The truth is — nothing automatically happens. We have a platinum reputation because we are very selective of who we choose to work for. Just as we get interviewed, we do the same thing with prospective clients.
They also brag about how their clients spent on average $5000 on DJ and lighting services. While we’re willing to spend top dollar to entertain our guests and make our room beautiful, the posts came across as “if you don’t spend that much because of your venue, you’re not worth our time!”
Post # 6
@BeeRod527: Someone like that should not have a good reputation. They sound like total douchebags.
Post # 7
Hmm. I’ve noticed this same attitude from a few of the vendors that I’ve looked into, but I try to remind myself that both “bride brain” and “bridezilla” are probably equally hellacious to work with/for. There was a photographer I was thisclose to booking, but she had multiple blogs dedicated to why her pricing (which is in the middle range for the area–hardly unreasonable) is justified. It just comes off as very defensive, and certainly off-putting. If the photog was hoping to scare away clients, it worked! I booked someone else. The one we ultimately chose also made it clear that she only takes on a select number of weddings, but billed it to me as a way to ensure she could devote time and energy into getting to know the couples she was working for so that she could capture the day in the way the best met the couple’s desires.
From what you’ve shared, it sounds like a strong vision for the day and good communication are important to this DJ. If that doesn’t sound like a problem and you truly love their work, please don’t feel bad about giving them money for a service. BUT, if you already feel wary and you haven’t even signed a contract, I’d advise you to find another DJ!
Post # 8
Whoa, that quote is crazy. We’re getting married in Lancaster and I never got a snobby vibe from any of the people we checked out, but all of our reception site’s recommended DJ’s were way out of our price range. That said, I did get the feeling that a lot of them had a gimmick to make them memorable, though this seems like they’re taking it too far.
Anyways, let me know if you need a recommendation. The DJ we went with is based in Reading, PA (not sure how far Eastern you’re talking)? They’re a bit zany, but really down to earth when it comes to business/planning and have been a pleasure to work with so far. Plus, they’re willing to work with our slightly eclectic music list (lots of recordings no longer available on iTunes, so we can bring our own burned copies if we need to, etc).
Post # 9
@BotticelliLove: yeah Reading is a slight hike from Bethlehem-Allentown area. We’ve looked into another DJ in our area that we’re meeting next weekend. It’s $1500 but it also includes uplighting.
I’m sure the other means well but there’s no need to bash the competition. There’s another high end DJ we liked but he’s booked on our day. At least that DJ is hella nice.