- 2 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
I don’t really need advice or anything, this was just hilarious and I wanted to share.
So the other day I took SO’s phone to look something up, since I’ve used all my data this month (halfway through the month…sigh).
I google searched, and when I clicked on the link, the most recently opened tab popped up to where I could still see it. And yeah, he’d been browsing adult websites. I was a little shocked, mainly because he’s expressed absolutely no interest in stuff like this. He says he doesn’t really like it, and when we moved in together, he threw out the few old Playboys that he’d had. I use his phone fairly often, and I never see anything of that nature.
So, I did the rational thing and asked him about it–I don’t really care that he’s been watching it, as long as it doesn’t affect what goes on in our bedroom, or as long as he’s not ignoring me for it. I think people should be able to explore their desires without shame. He denied it until I wiggled his phone history under his nose. I actually think he was really embarrassed, and maybe afraid that it would make me feel inferior. He ACTUALLY SAID “Well, I mean, I swear to God I was looking up girls that looked like you.” I gave him the side eye and asked him exactly what he was talking about. He types into the search bar on the site and hands it back to me and it says “BIG SEXY WOMEN” . Okay, well first off, clearly he doesn’t really do this too often if he’s trying to search. I could give him keywords for days that would work a lot better than that. Second of all, yeah, I’m a bigger girl, but to put that in the SEARCH BAR OF A PORNO SITE?! AND THEN SHOW ME?!
Rude, I tell you.
Then we keep talking about it, and I told him that while I don’t regularly watch porn, I have before, and I’ve done it since I’ve been with him, and ladies, he got pissed. I asked him why he was mad and he said “Because! You’re looking at guys who probably don’t look like me and getting pleasure out of it, and you’d better not be cheating either!”
Wait. What? First off, not to brag, but SO is pretty much a stone cold fox. I don’t know how I ended up with someone as sexy as he is, for real. Second of all, most of the guys in porn are totally ugly. Like, totally. Third, it’s okay for you to watch it, but the second I tell you I have to, you get all offended and think I’m cheating on you?
Can we say double standards?