SO and sister are acting strange! What do you think I should do?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Have you considered that maybe they are planning a surprise for you? Just a thought…

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 

forgetaboutme:  Have you given any thought that they might be working together to surprise you with something? a ring? an engagement? a birthday party?

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Are you two engaged? Are you serious. do you think he needs her help in planning any surprises for you if none of the above id be worried too… 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

denisi33:  This was my thought too. Is it possible he’s planning to propose, and using your sister’s help?

But at the same time, I’m not sure why they would secretly text each other while you’re all in the same room…that will just make you suspicious.

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Deejayelle:  Yeah, when my FI was about to propose I thought he was acting so strange and kept his phone on him at all times and even his iPad which is logged into his FB. Even the night he proposed I was like “Get off your phone, you are acting so weird and have been on it all night” haha I was clueless. Apparently he had told all of our friends and family and many of them were waiting at the proposal destination. I was completely shocked when we walked in and they were all there. For weeks, he had set up a private FB event to invite people and I had no idea. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If they haven’t given you any reason not to trust them, then trust them.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you’re serious, he may be getting ready to propose… How close are you to your sister??

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think what other bees are saying is plausible. Maybe he’s planning a surprise proposal or something. But, don’t let that totally cloud your judgement. If things get REALLY weird, still listen to your intuition because you never know.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I dunno. I’m not a fan of *squee! he’s probably planning to propose!!*. It’s possible I guess. But do you feel like it’s probable?

It’s interesting that your co-worker mentioned seeing them together. I would think, if they were out actively executing some *surprise proposal* tasks, they almost certainly would’ve clued her in so she wouldn’t tip you off. Did she say if they were holding hands/arm-in-arm or anything? Why was she *confused* when it turned out not to be you?

I also think all the calling and texting in front of you is bad. I”d say bordering on cruel. It’s almost like they want you to be suspicious of them for some reason. Because whether they’re up to something or planning a surprise, either way, they suck at it.

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

  forgetaboutme:  You said your co-worker went up to them to say hi, then realized it wasn’t you. Did she say anything to them? Did you ask her if they seemed too chummy? Did you get a feeling she wanted to say more to you but didn’t? They seem to be pretty blatant with the texting and calling right in front of you. That suggests they:

a) want you to notice so they can then make you feel foolish later when you realize they were in cahoots planning a surprise for you

b) are oblivious to how blatant their behavior is and don’t think you’ll notice / think they’re smarter than you (which is pretty typical cheater behavior)

c) want you to notice because they’re both cheating and planning a surprise for you and will be able to blame your suspicions on the surprise, thereby making you feel foolish enough that you will dismiss all future suspicions as they cheat. Which I know sounds pretty diabolical, but is also pretty typical of cheaters.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Sounds pretty weird to me, if it was a proposal they’d be a bit more sneaky than that!

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you are close with your sister, then maybe it’s worth just asking her point-blank–not like, “are you having an affair with my b/f?” but more just simply like, “Um, what’s going on?”

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