Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo
UGH. I don’t usually create threads just to vent and rant, but i’m so pissed off right now I reeeally need to talk about this.
As some of you may have read in my previous post, we’re having some problems with Future Brother-In-Law. basically he’s having a cow because our wedding date happens to be his birthday too. He’s being absolutely awful about it, and even called me a bitch the other day! I’ve never ONCE insulted anyone like that in my life, especially not a relative, or future relative!
Anyway, I didn’t want Fiance to be upset on the day (couldn’t give a damn about Future Brother-In-Law, I have no respect for people who are verbally agressive towards me), and I know for a fact that Future Mother-In-Law would also be upset on the day if Future Brother-In-Law keeps this up. Also, we had always been regretting the day a bit because in the middle of July the weather is a total nightmare here in Malta. So we considered changing the date.
Long story short, we finally managed to come to an agreement with our vendors and find another date, at no extra charge. our new CONFIRMED date: 25th of May. Our big mistake: we didn’t check with our friends and family first. Turns out my best friend (she’s also my BM) has to attend her cousin’s wedding on that day too!
I’m about to cry. I don’t know what to do. I can’t get married if my best friend’s not there. I’m so upset, and angry. Mostly angry, and I can’t help blaming all of this on Future Brother-In-Law. I know maybe i’m being unreasonable but I’m just fed up of all this bullshit now.
Post # 3
unreal. Take it back to your original date. If it’s that big of a deal to Future Brother-In-Law he can skip the wedding.
Unless he’s 8 and upset because his Chuck E Cheese party is ruined, he needs to man up.
Post # 4
I am no help, but I cannot believe someone would be so ridiculous about someone getting married on their birthday. Tomorrow is my birthday. It is also my husband’s fundraising benefit for his school, so I won’t be able to “celebrate.” And my friend’s wedding is Saturday. I would never even think of being upset about any of this. It’s just a birthday and we’re all adults.
Post # 5
WOW is it his sweet sixteen MTV over the top party or something you are taking away from? Seriously! It his birthday and a wedding is just the thing to get family all together to see ON your birthday. Pretty sure he would get some attention and happy birthday wishes. WOW what a drama queen, I would laugh and not change a thing. He can get over himself. LOL Gee I am mean today! LOL
Post # 6
That’s insane!!!!! On our wedding day we’re also celebrating 2 birthdays!!! My stepson and my fiancée’s godson!
Post # 7
Seriously, can I smack your Future Brother-In-Law for you? Unbelievable.
Just curious, are you the one who’s Future Brother-In-Law is turning 22 and throwing this big fit? It’s not even a super cool or special bday?!?
Post # 8
If memory serves me right, birthdays happen every single year, on the same date even! He needs to get over himself. How many years do we end up celebrating with family and friends on a different day of the week than our actual birthday anyway? He sounds like an immature drama queen.
Side note, I just attended a wedding where the MOH’s mother was in attendance and it was also her birthday. The bride mentioned it in her toasts and we all raised a glass to her. It was very sweet. And she was in tears and happy to be at the wedding. That’s class.
Post # 9
@Adams_bee: Your FBIL need to grow a pair and STFU. Have your wedding whenever you damn well please. If he throws a fit over being at a wedding on his precious birthday, he’ll look like a fool…not you.
Post # 10
When you guys were origianally planning, did you not know that it is his birthday? I agree, its not a big deal! my fiance is a pastor… and is marrying someone the day after my bday, meaning rehearsal on day of… i dont even know these people but WHATEVER free food and party for me. lol
Post # 11
You never should have changed your date. I would say go back to the original date and if Future Brother-In-Law has a problem with it, ask him how old he is?!
Maybe a 4 year old would be excused for being upset over some other plans on his birthday but if he’s a grown man he needs to suck it up. Average person gets around 70-80 birthdays in their lifetime, you will have one wedding.
Post # 12
You cannot SERIOUSLY still be thinking he’s just upset about his birthday?
Anyway, can you arrange another date? I know it’s frustrating but can something else be worked out?
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo
@DeadlyNightshade: Nope, I also think it’s because he’s severely narcissistic.
Post # 15
Wow….I think someone needs to get over himself!! Seriously, FBIL is throwing a fit because the wedding was on his birthday???? Does he also refuse to go to work on his own birthday? Wipe his own rear on his birthday? Get real, dude. He’s being completely unfair to you and your fiance. Yuck! I’d change it back to your original date without a second thought. He’s just making himself look bad.
Post # 16
What?! How old is you FBIL? Sounds like kindergarten behavior…….