(Closed) So angry!!!!!!

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
1431 posts
Bumble bee

Sorry! I thin that’s why I’m not going totell anyone once we are trying because I don’t want people asking me every month. It seems you made it pretty clear your sick of her asking. Just ignore her texts when she asks, she will eventually figure it out. Keep your head up!

Post # 4
2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so so sorry for your loss! And for the fear that you have because of that (which, by the way, is totally understandable).

Honestly, my guess is that your sister is trying to be supportive and encouraging… And it’s just not coming out that way.

If you don’t want to test, then don’t test!  She is likely just excited, and trying to help lighten your mood.  Also, as someone who has probably not been pregnant/experienced the negative test result, she probably doesn’t understand the pain of that.  (I was NOT trying to get pregnant – in fact I was on birth control.  I was simply concerned because of symptoms I had, so I took a test.  It was negative, which is what I suspected and what I wanted… I was still disappointed.  It’s just a natural instinct/feeling I think).

So, all of this to say – You’re not alone in not wanting to test for fear of a negative.  I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁 And I’m so sorry that you feel like your sister was being pushy and inconsiderate.  I’m sure part of it is simply that you are sensitive in this area because you feel like your body isn’t working how it “should.”  Just sit back and relax – Don’t worry about it.  Your body will eventually give you signs one way or the other — pregnancy signals like you had before or your period.  You are totally free and “allowed” to wait for those signals!

Hope your night goes better!

Post # 5
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

I’m sorry. Just because it’s not a life goal for her, doesn’t mean she can’t at least try to understand where you’re coming from. TTC at the best of times is bloody hard. TTC after a loss, I can’t even imagine.

Sending you big hugs – and from all the things I’ve read, just remember that every pregnancy is different. When you decide to test is up to you, but I’m sure your body will let you know when it’s time. Good luck hon.

Post # 6
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2004

@Magdalena:  Just take a deep breath and try to relax.  Unfortunately some people just dont have any form of understanding for others. I dont think this means your sister doesnt love you, but clearly she is not on the same page and, as her priorities are clearly different, she is a bit ignorant about how you are affected. Maybe her lifeplan changes in future, but right now you focus on YOU and do what you need to do.

Post # 7
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m really sorry you had to go through that, and it’s understandable that you would want to take your time. Just try to ignore her as best you can, and I’m sending sticky dust your way!

Post # 8
5109 posts
Bee Keeper

I am so sorry. I just wanna say I can relate to wanting to wait to test until I am late too for the same reason… That whole situation just sounds awful when it should be such a happy time. Like Jag said, TTC at the best of times is bloody hard. People who are not TTC, people who are are moms already and people who plan to not ever TTC can say some of the most hurtful things sometimes =( I’m very sorry =(

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