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No offense, but I think you need to chill out! Obviously, she REALLY liked yours, so she took the same design, and adapted it to make her own. At least you know she has good taste!
I would not care at all. It's a compliment that she loved yours so much.
I guess I could see being a little annoyed (not pissed) if a friend did that...but honestly...it's just stationary.
Hang on a minute, have you already sent yours out? Or will the same guests be getting hers before yours?
I'd be pissed, but everyone that knows you both got yours first and knows she copied you. So I wouldn't say anything, because she knows what she did and so does everyone else. And it's flattering. But I definitely wouldn't give her any more tutorials on your wedding stuff, just in case she recreates your wedding!
I would try and take it as a complement. I am sure she didn't mean to make you upset.
I dont blame you for being upset. If I devoted that much time and energy into something only to have it ripped off, I would be pretty peeved too. However, what's done is done so is it really worth making a big deal? You know what they say, immitation is the highest form of flattery!
I don't know if angry is the right word, but I would be... annoyed? Especially if I spent a lot of time trying to come up with something unique and original. It isn't the end of the world though, I would probably mention it but try not to make too big of a deal.
I would be pissed and I know exactly how you feel. I had a girl copy basically my whole wedding-- my FH and I learned too late that we should keep our mouths shut.
ETA: I didn't talk to her about it because it was too late, you know? It was already done.
If you haven't sent your out yet, I'd be pretty upset that she copied you and send them out first... otherwise, take it as a compliment and let it go.
Honestly I would be flattered that she liked my work so much. I would probably be shocked when I first opened the envelope but I'd get over it. I wouldn't say anything and just take it as a compliment.
I'd be a bit weirded out. But you won't gain anything by talking to her - it's not like she doesn't know what happened.
although annoying for you im sure you have to remember that where you live, breathe, think and sleep weddings 24/7 most guests do not so the majority of people wont notice - especially as your invites are blue and hers are red
I'm now afraid to have her attend my wedding in fear of her copying everything else
are you serious? and if she does copy??? your wedding was first so why would it matter
Thanks for the advice and comments ladies. I feel a little better having vented and heard all your comments. Thank you :)
Who cares....take it as a comliment and move one....Life is short! If this is the biggest problem at your wedding you should count your blessings!
I meant this comment as a good empowering way....you rock....let her love your ideas!
this sounds like it goes beyond using yours as an inspiration -- yeah, I'd be seriously annoyed.
Do you have a picture of hers and yours? I would like to see how different or similar they are.
I would call it weird -- definitely weird! But NOTHING I'd be angry about. When people buy invitations (as opposed to DIY) there are other people with the same invites out there in the world. I don't know, maybe you should start up a business?
I'd be livid! but thats probably because the invitations were one of the most important parts of the wedding to me.
Whos wedding is first?
Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, IMO! :) Kudos to you for creating something that others wanted too. Sure, it's probably a bit deflating in a sense because you put SO much work into them and you don't want others to think that she came up with those ideas, when it was really you. Totally get that... but in the grand scheme of life, I think it's not something to waste time being upset over. :)
Do you have much guest overlap? I can't imagine you have totally identical guest lists, so your guests probably won't even see hers, right? Problem solved!
ETA: I also wanted to say that I admire you taking constructive criticism well!! I've seen so, so many 'vent' posts where the OP didn't really want to hear what was being offered to them and got really defensive. Again, kudos to you for not doing that!! Sometimes it really does take an objective third party's perspective and I have to admire you for your reaction to the PP's advice :)
I could understand you feeling frustrated because A. You did take the time to research and really put time and effort into them until you had a nice finished product and she got the same results with zero effort B. I think her making the same invites isn't the annoying part- I think it's more annoying she didn't contact you and say "Hey I really love your invites and just wanted to check in and see if it were ok if I did the same but put it into my color scheme-" Ya know give you the credit.
Plus side: Your's was received first so any mutual guests will see that they were yours to start with. Also, they are only invites that will get tossed in the trash- Its a sad thought but us brides put so much effort into detail when in all reality, not many appreciate the time we put into all these things. I used vista print..haha..my friend used vista print and we did the same.
My best friend is not artsy craftsy at all! If she asked me how to do something...I would expect her creation would look like a replica of mine. I think you need to realize that your friend wasn't trying to annoy you but to make her invitations look as lovely as yours do! You taught her how to do what you did, but probably didn't show her variations on your version, so she just did what you showed her. The only reason I think you could be extremely upset is if her invitations are being sent out prior to yours and to the exact same group of people! But personally, I think her friendship ought to outweigh the offense!
@Missbliss: She's not actually my friend - she's my friend's fiance. When he told me that they were having trouble with the invitations, I offered to show them how easy and cost effective the diy route was. I in fact made up a mock template for her that looked very different from mine but she chose to rip off everything I did.
You ladies are right, there's no point in stressing out over it. I was just frustrated with the situation being so fresh at the time. Thank you for all your helpful advice and comments :)
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Hi ladies,
Sorry to vent but I'm absolutely furious right now!
My friend asked me how I made my wedding invitations and I showed her some of the techniques I used, such as heat embossing, thinking she would use these newly acquired skills to create her own vision for her invitations. I had no idea I was basically opening the door to her copying EVERYTHING I did, except my colors were blue and she used red.
She copied my style, my fonts, my layouts, my wording and even purchased the same stamps I did and embossed them on the same sections of the pocketfolds. She didn't even give me the head's up - so you can image my surprise when I got her in the mail.
I'm so hurt and so upset. I spent hours researching and making mock ups of my invitation to get it the way I wanted only to have her copy everything I did! I can't believe I took time out of my busy schedule to teach her only to have her stab me in the back and do everything I did exactly the same!
Am I making overreacting or am I justified in being upset? I want to talk to her about it but don't know where to start - should I even talk to her about it? I'm now afraid to have her attend my wedding in fear of her copying everything else. What do you ladies think?