- 3 years ago
We have been talking for months about getting a puppy. We’ve had the breed approved by the landlord, so we’re all fine to go ahead. I’ve been keeping an eye on the registered breeders list, and some puppies were just born. SO told me to email the breeder with some questions, which I did. She got back to me fairly quickly, and answered all of my questions. I told SO and he was happy with all of it, and told me to ask for her number and we would call her last night to ask some more questions.
We got a list of questions together, and were about to call her and I asked him if he was ready for this. Then he started going on about how he doesn’t think I’m ready because he does more housework. I am more than ready for this, it is something we’ve talked about – it took weeks to hear from the real estate about whether we could get a puppy, and we were both impatient. FWIW, he works 8-10 hours on a weekend and is home all week, I work full time M-F. He is home more than I am, he cooks every afternoon so our evening meal is ready (I have offered to cook numerous times, but he enjoys doing it so he does it while I’m at work). I always do housework on the weekend – vacuuming, steam mopping, spent a few hours last week scrubbing the dirtier spots on the tiles that the mop doesn’t remove. He always comes home to a clean house with the washing done when he finishes work.
I was just enraged last night. We said we would call her, then he pulls a stunt like that. This is something we BOTH want, it’s not like I am pushing for it and he is half hearted. He was excited yesterday and emailed a picture of the pups to one of his friends saying that the journey is beginning. He also called the real estate to set up a time to sign the pet authority. I was just so angry that he told me to tell her we would call, that’s just rude….so I emailed her my apologies and asked the questions we had written down, and she has responded. All looks good to go ahead.
He volunteered me twice to look after 2 of his family member’s dogs and I did everything for them (he was working), feeding them, letting them out, playing with them, cleaning up after them, getting up early in the morning (even when SO got home at 2am after work and I went to bed really late) to let them out, cleaning up any mess they may have made in the laundry (one had a habit of peeing in the laundry despite how many times he was let out) cleaning up the yard, they were such great company for me – I get pretty lonely on weekends when SO is working and I just felt safer on my own with a dog in the house…we had one of the dogs for a week and I was so sad when it was time for him to go home! How can he say I am not ready based on the fact he does more around the house because I am working?! What is the solution, quit work and do housework full time?
There is a lot of demand for this breed of dog, and the puppies will be spoken for in a matter of days. This breeder seems a lot more easy going than the others that are listed – a lot of the others have stated that you need to register your interest (kind of like applying for a job), whereas this lady would be happy to sell to us after I sent her an email about who we are, what we do, where we live and our experience with the breed. She offers a guarantee on the pups, she can arrange transport, she ticks all of the boxes. If we don’t act soon (like, today), we will miss out and I will be beyond enraged. What is the point of asking permission from the real estate, waiting anxiously for an answer for weeks, SO calling up to make arrangements to sign the pet agreement, SO telling his friend it’s all happening, then telling ME I’m not ready. I don’t know what I’m looking for – I’m just angry and needed to vent 🙁