- 5 years ago
One of my very best friends from college is an independent jeweler. She lives 1/2 way across the country now, and makes BEAUTIFUL jewelry that is very unique, which suits my particular tastes. Her stuff is expensive, and I have bought several of her pieces over the years, and always refer people to her whenever I get compliments on them.
Anyway, back in January we were talking on the phone, and I asked if I could buy my wedding earrings from her. She makes a certain style that I love – she custom makes them and they’re usually around $300-400. She said she’d be honored to make them, but would like to give them to me as my wedding gift. I told her I would be more than happy to pay, but if she really wanted to give them to me as a gift it was very generous and of course I’d love that.
Well, it’s now nearly May. I have no earrings. I’ve texted her to see how she is, no response. I’ve called and left messages, no response (not frequently, I’m not hounding her, but every few weeks). Finally last night I called and left a message to say hi, but also to let her know that my dress is coming very soon and I’d like to have the earrings if possible so I can see my whole look and decide if I need to change anything about it. I AGAIN offered to pay instead, in case she’s changed her mind about giving me such a generous gift. No response.
This has been the most stressful part of my wedding planning. I’m starting to think I’m not going to have earrings (I’m not getting married until September, but still – I’m a plus size bride and that makes me a little self-conscious, and I just want to make sure my whole look is how I want it to be).
My aunt offered to borrow me a pair of faux pearl earrings that were my grandmother’s (who died when my dad was a kid), that she and my other aunt and one of my cousins all wore at their weddings. The thing is, I didn’t buy the headpiece I really wanted, because I wanted these ornate earrings my friend is supposedly going to make for me, so I bought a much simpler headpiece instead (my grandmother’s earrings probably would’ve looked great with the more elaborate headpiece. Of course what I bought was still expensive and isn’t returnable…) I’m just very frustrated.
Additionally, when my brother got married a year ago he wanted to buy a pair of these earrings for his now-wife also to wear on their wedding day and to have as a family heirloom. $300-400 for him is a lot of money. And she never returned his calls, so he was not able to buy them for his wife 🙁
I just feel like this is such bad business. Granted, she is supposedly giving me these earrings as a gift so I can’t complain tooooooo much I suppose, but I have offered to pay several times (and would rather just pay than have this stress – money is not much of a concern for me, honestly), and my brother was certainly a paying customer. This is her business and her livelihood, and I just can’t believe she doesn’t return calls. There is also a $400-$500 bracelet (already made) that I want to buy from her, but she’s not gotten back to me about that either. I know she is not dead because she posts things on her business’s facebook page…
I’m sorry for the long post, I just really had to vent. Any suggestions about what to do? She is one of my dearest friends (the kind where you don’t talk all the time but when you do it’s like no time has gone by), and I love her, but I am so frustrated…