- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
This is a rather amusing story for both me and my FH! It’s not really a rant since we are both more entertained than anything else by these events, but it’s been on my mind and I felt I needed to get it out!
My FH’s brother and his GF have been dating probably twice as long as we have, and my FBIL is also extremely competitive with my FH (though my FH is not with him and doesn’t really care what his brother does) so when we got engaged it came as no surprise to me when a day later FBIL announced he would be proposing in about a month! Which is about 6 months early from what he had told the family he was getting engaged.
Now when we initially heard this (from FMIL) she assured us that he was very distraught over the phone saying that my FH had horrible timing, and he couldn’t believe he had proposed so early, and it had just ruined everything that my FH had proposed (luckily this was through FMIL not us or my FH would have been angered by his brothers initial reaction). After about 15 min of hedging my FBIL told my FMIL he had planned to propose in a month and hadn’t told anyone since he wanted to keep it a surprise and still hadn’t quite decided. He was upset because if he did propose it would seem like he only was because my FH proposed. FMIL assured him and thus he is still going to propose!
With just that part of the story it does just seem like very unfortunate timing! but with information I recently got from FMIL I’m starting to suspect that unfortunate timing was not the case.
To start off, FBIL claimed to have been saving for a ring for months. But then he purchased the ring only 1 day after my FH proposed! On clearance no less, which makes it seem very suspicious! He had saved up all this money for a ring and then picked one on clearance instead? However! This could still be coincidence! Maybe he had just looked at general prices and then found something awesome on clearance that was almost the same! But then two more things happen that make it seem even more suspicious!
After he gets the ring, he can’t keep it a secret anymore! Pretty much the entire family but his GF knows he is proposing! If he was working so hard to keep it a secret and worked really really hard not to tell his mother about it, why would he go tell the rest of the family? Still maybe the excitement got to him and he just couldn’t hold it in! It’s this last thing that really nails it. At least for me.
A little background on my ring first. It is not a traditional ring even in the slightest! It is something that I personally couldn’t even picture! My FH took bits and pieces of things I had pointed out liking on other rings and then scoured to find one that had all of these elements elegantly put together! In the end it is not a typical engagement ring!
So when my FMIL described the ring my FBIL had gotten I was shocked to hear that it looked almost EXACTLY LIKE MY RING. Now if he had been shopping around months ago, he would obviously looked at the ‘engagement ring’ section and know exactly what rings for engagement look like! I posted tons of picks on FB of my ring so he knew exactly what mine looked like, and thus would know it is not typical engagement ring style. I could be wrong through; I haven’t seen the ring myself! But with all of these things added up it is really hard to believe that he had actually planned the engagement from the beginning!
I feel a little bad for him though, because if this ring does look like mine everyone in the family will put this story together and so will his GF. They have been dating a long time and talking about marriage as well! So I do feel sorry for them because no one would be thinking anything like this if he had waited even just 1 month more to tell people his intentions! But instead he made a huge deal about it the day after we got engaged which made it seem so suspicious!
Let me know what you think of this Bee’s! Do you think he planned it? Do you think he’s competing? Again my FH and I are more amused than annoyed by this, it’s just been on my mind and I needed to get it out!
Thanks for reading! 🙂