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Apparently my fiance failed to mention to any of his groomsmen that there is this thing called a rehearsal that they are supposed to attend.  So none of them were planning on it, and the BEST MAN was even planning on working up until the wedding, then just showing up in his tux.  Ummmmm, ya, we are taking our photos before the wedding so he'll need to be ready at like 3:00.  I'm so scared that my FH will be left w/out groomsmen, or w/out a best man.....and it was such a hard time for him even choosing a best man.  The first guy he asked, he then had to ask to step down bc he was acting like he was too apprehensive about the 'responsibilities' of it, the second friend didn't want to because, in his own words, 'I won't know any of the groomsmen'.  So OK.  And how this guy seems like he totally might not even be there.  

I had told my fiance to handle the guy stuff.  I thought it was OK.  And how look what happened.  I don't want to be some big B**** and be telling all the guys they have to do this and that, and I have enough to deal with aside from all that.  But now it feels like I'm going to have to do cleanup that I don't even want to do....I really really really want these guys to show up for everything, I can't imagine how hurt my fiance will be if they don't.  But I don't want to have to be the one to explain to them what their duties are and this and that and so on.  Plus it makes me SO mad to think they didn't even bother to, oh I don't know, GOOGLE what they were supposed to do?  I mean, come on! 

Should I just let my fiance deal with it and let the chips fall where they may?  Is cleanup in order?  I don't know what to do or how to 'coach' my fiance through this....I'm just so scared he may not have a best man for the THIRD time. 

You definitely need to talk with your fiance about the situation.  I'm lucky because my FI's groomsmen are all childhood friends and FMIL has agreed to rangle them on the day of.  I was really worried about the potential of a lack of effort on the GMs parts, but have pleasantly surprised to date.  But only time will tell...

I sent my FH a list of 'best man' and 'groomsmen' duties, but idk if he'll be able to forward them to all his groomsmen.  It's so frustrating because we don't even have the email addresses of some of them, and one in particular doesn't even respond to calls or texts.  It was like pulling teeth to get their addresses to send their invitations to.  I wish he could just 'demote' some of these guys, I honestly didn't really want him to ask the one who doesn't respond to calls/texts at all, but he felt obligated because he's one of 'the guys' that they all hang out with, even though he's more of a friend of a friend than my FH's ACTUAL friend.  But I wasn't gonna argue, wasn't my choice. 

Well the 'duties' I sent were basically "get fitted for tux, plan bachelor party, attend rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, show up BEFORE ceremony starts'.  I swear these guys thought they would just stroll into the wedding in jeans 10 seconds before the ceremony started or something.  The last one just got fitted for his tux yesterday after we had to keep calling him and harassing him.  It's sort of hilarious that they were ALL so clueless but also a little irritating.