(Closed) So apprehensive about groomsmen….how to deal?

posted 9 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
2682 posts
Sugar bee

I would talk to your Fiance and help him understand the groomsmens responsibilities.  Then he can talk to his groomsmen and give him the information.  They probably have no idea what is required of them other than to be there for the wedding, especially if they have never been in a wedding before, so if you give them some dates and times they need to keep in mind it would probably be very helpful.  You can also email out a day-of itinerary and copy all the Groomsmen and Bridesmaid or Best Man on it so everyone knows what is going on.

Post # 4
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

You definitely need to talk with your fiance about the situation.  I’m lucky because my FI’s groomsmen are all childhood friends and Future Mother-In-Law has agreed to rangle them on the day of.  I was really worried about the potential of a lack of effort on the GMs parts, but have pleasantly surprised to date.  But only time will tell…Wink

Post # 6
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ok your wedding is coming quick, congrats on that, but ya screw them thinking your a b**** and get those guys in shape, get there numbers and e-mails and just send a mass text saying… you must plan bach party, provide a few ideas, and that they must show up for rehersal at this date and time, and they must be ready by x time on wedding day. As far as other duties i’m not really sure what else there is but they are secondary and not important.

Sorry just read your last post, and honestly my theory is if they show up in a tux the day of and understand they have to smile when they walk down the aisle than we’re golden!! (we’ve had a lot of changes and issues with my Fiance brothers.. there so annoying so i feel your pain)

Post # 8
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I got all the Groomsmen e-mails and sent them timeline: they’re guys. They need instruction or nothing will get done.

I think you have given them the benefit of the doubt so it’s now time to whip them into shape..rather it’s by going through your fi (just email/give them the duties/timeline) and have him had it over or by doing it yourself. Which ever one you prefer.

I would be soo freaking out! And, I totally understand that it is kind of funny that none of them that any idea…but hey, ..they’re guys…lol

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