Post # 1
Hi Bees, last weekend my SO surprised me by asking what shape diamond I liked. I thought that he meant to ask me what style jewelry I like so I repeated the question to him and he looked shy and said “well… yes, like for the future..” So I told him I liked oval shape and then I let the convo change so I didn’t make it awkward. We’ve only been dating 6 months but I had a feeling my SO wouldn’t drag his feet about an engagement if he felt positive that I was the one. He is 35 and looking forward to starting a family. We have casually discussed getting married but never more than a quick comment. This weekend we are going away together, would it be too soon to probe a little further and maybe ask him what his thoughts are on a timeline? Just out of curiousity really. My guess is he’s thinking a proposal around our 1 year anniversary because planning about 6 months ahead sounds appropriate. But I’m curious to hear his thoughts on it. Should I ask??
Post # 2
It’s ok to ask. Don’t nag, but saying Something like “I know you are thinking about our future, what are your thoughts of when we would take the next step” seem appropriate. You haven’t been dating very long, so don’t scare him!
Post # 3
NightOwl27: Honestly, I wouldn’t bring it up now. I’d wait until it’s closer to a year (or more) of dating before I would bring marriage or a timeline up. He’s probably thinking ahead and you don’t want to scare him or make him think he’s locked into a timeline. It’s a little early for that.
Post # 4
jadlnc: I agree that bringing it up on my own might seem a bit pushy and make him feel like he’s opened Pandora’s Box. Maybe if HE brings up the topic again this weekend I could casually slip in a question. I’m not sure how to word it without making it sound like I’m trying to tie him down to specifics (which I’m not, just curious).
LittleE3: I definitely don’t want to scare him! That’s exactly what I’m trying to avoid.
Post # 5
I’d wait until he brought it up, like you said, and then ask a casual question like “you are thinking about our future? Aw, I do that a lot too…what were you thinking about?” non-commital but may give you the answers you are looking for. Not sure of your personalities obviously, so tailor it to you so it doesn’t sound like you’re searching for info.