Post # 1
Please give me some advice for this very awkward situation I’ve found myself in.
I used to be friendly with someone in high school. However, after we graduated, we fell out of touch and haven’t spoke in at least 6 years. Well, I got engaged and she called me out of the blue – it was nice of her to congratulate me and I was happy enough to catch up with her.
However, she’s been sending me facebook messages asking when the wedding is and ‘demanding’ that I send her a plus one for her current boyfriend (they’ve been dating, apparently for a few months).
Well, I successfully dodged (read: ignored) these messages pretty successfully, until today. She posted on my facebook wall!! WTF! Seriously? To be honest, we were friendly, but I wasn’t planning on inviting her at all.
What should I do? How do I respond to this?
Post # 3
@rachaelrobin: friggen block her
Post # 4
Conveniently “remove” her post off your wall. What post?
Post # 5
eek…um….creeper alert. i’d just say that you guys are planning a smaller wedding and are keeping it to just close family and friends, but you’d love to meet up with her some time.
Post # 6
dont meet up with her it will lead to more awkwardness… i would block her who cares
Post # 7
Eww I’m having this problem too! Although not to the extreme of posting on my wall!
I would set your privacy settings to block her from being able to see and write on your wall and if she asks, just say you blocked it bc of work or something.
Another way facebook causes drama lol
Post # 8
I wouldn’t dignify that wall post with a response. Honestly, she’s the one embarrasing herself. How blatant was her post?
Post # 10
Remove the wall post, and send her a private message thanking her for her excitement and congratulations, and expressing regret that your small, intimate guest list won’t have room for her and her boyfriend.
Post # 11
Seriously, just block her! That’s annoying. I hate when people try and be buddy buddy to get to your wedding
Post # 12
Haven’t spoken in 6 years??? I would let her know it’s a smal wedding, just family and very close friends….I’d send it via fb message. And you could add “but I’d love to catch up soon, let me know when you are free!” Chances are, a meet up will not ever happen.
Post # 13
It seems easy enough to block her, but I think that you can be a bigger person. I second what @littlestbirds said. Just send her a message and explain that you are only having intimate company. She should understand and even if not, you handled it properly.
Post # 14
I agree – if you don’t really care to stay in touch with her at all (ever again…) then block and ignore her. Otherwise, you use the intimate, only family and close friends line and state that your guest list simply will not be able to accommodate her and her bf, but you are so happy that she wanted to share your day with you.
Post # 15
um, well @MissLLC: Ill let you judge for yourself:
“Hey you..we were suppposed to have a phone date sometime a while ago. That never happened 🙁 I want to know when the wedding is and to catch you up on my life and the boy and whatever else we need to talk about. Love you and miss you hun. CALL ME!!!”
Granted, she did leave out the request for a plus one on the wall post – saved that one for pm only I guess, but still.
Unfortuately, we are going to have no where near a small wedding, so I am worried if i say something like that it will just complicate things more.
Post # 16
@PepBandLove:she doesnt owe her much.. i mean this is a random old hs friend who is being rude..lose touch…such is life