Post # 1
So, SO and I are from two different culture and two different religions. We have been dating for 3+ years and a proposal will be happening before the next anniversary. <br />We are both from very conservative cultures so noone but our immediate family knows about us. I have been getting really stressed that my extended family wont be supportive and be incredibly against the idea. In our culture there opinions matter, esp to our parents. I was in the car with my mom today and I told her about how stressed I am about having to announce this relationship to them and my mom BLESS HER was like:<br /><br />MOM: S, do you live with them (ext. family?)<br />Me: no….<br />Mom: Are you dependent on them?<br />Me: No…<br />Mom: Are you going to spend the rest of your life with them?<br />Me: No…<br />Mom: So who gives a darn if they don’t approve. He is such a good boy. You marrying a Christian (we are Christians) boy from our culture doesn’t guarantee that he won’t turn out to be abusive or cruel to you. You know that SO is a great man and he adorers you and you guys make a great couple. People will say that you’re many things but how long will they talk? If they have anything to say, Ill deal with them.<br /><br />And I JUST WANTED TO CRY! You guys dont understand how much implications an interracial, interreligious marriage has in our culture. People will def. bitch at them and talk shit about them and even ostracize them, and the opinions matter a LOT. She is so supportive and such a blessing.
<br />Bees, I would love to hear about some of your amazing mom stories.
Post # 2
Tandoori65: This is sooo sweet! I am sure that I am much older than you. My mom passed away just over 5 years ago. It is nice to remember the blessings I received from my mom. Here is a cute one. I was about 12 yrs. old, was singing in another town in a for an exchange concert at Christmas. For some concerts we wore long gowns and some short dresses. When I was getting ready for the concert, I realized I had brought a long gown, and every other girl was wearing a short dress. I was always in the front row, and very embarrassed and self-conscious. The town was quite a distance away, and I had younger siblings. I still don’t know how my mom managed it, but she managed to buy me a beautiful short dress and somehow found a way to bring it to me before the concert.
Post # 3
My mom has always given me advice but would allow me to make my own decisions and always supported me and knew I would find my way…and at the end of the day I could always see she was right and that I should’ve listened to her…but her allowing me to make mistakes helped me grow as a person.
today she was a blessing because we talked on the phone for two hours about wedding stuff and she is so excited to plan with me 🙂
Post # 4
My mom is a blessing every day. she’s my best friend and inspiration. i can’t pick just one story. She’s just always there for me and we have a blast together!
Post # 5
I think glamachica needs to take a look at this thread.
Post # 6
Every day I get to see my mother is a blessing. We almost lost her when I was in middle school to End Stage Renal Disease (her kidneys completely failed and she lives 3 days a week on dialysis). She’s been doing this for the last 15 years now. Through out the stages of my life, she has always told me that she wanted to live to see my sister and I graduate high school, and then it was she wanted to see us graduate College, then it was she wanted to see us get married. Usually people on dialysis last up to 10 years before their bodies just give out from the stress of it all. She’s a stubborn as a mule and I have been so beyond happy that she has been helping me through the process of planning the wedding.
Of course now, it’s gone to ‘She wants to see her grandkids and my FI and I had better hurry up’.
Post # 7
My mom and I typically don’t get along, but she said something to me once that I’ve never forgotten and I remember it anytime things get difficult or I’m worried about something:
“LadyBear, I don’t have to worry about you. You always manage to land on your feet.”
At the time, I had no idea how much that would mean to me, but now it’s definitely a blessing. Whenever I’m not sure I can make it through something or DH and I face life’s challenges, I remember that and am reminded that I can handle anything that comes at me.
Post # 8
My mom and I also don’t get along a lot of the time. However, she absolutely loves FI, so for that I am grateful.
Post # 9
My mom is my hero. She’s the strongest woman that I know and if I end up half the mother to my maybe someday hypothetical kid, I’ll consider it a success. I’m sure many of us think that our moms are the best but mine really is. She really, really is.
Post # 10
When I told my Mom on the phone that I (with my 2 small children) was leaving my first husband, but I didn’t know where to go or what to do as I had not worked outside the home during the marriage, she didn’t hesitate for even a moment and said ” You are welcome to move back home with the kids and stay with us while you go back to school”.
She and my Dad made a home for us, and provided childcare while I got my degree. She has always been there for me.
Post # 11
TheGridMonster: She’s too busy sorting metals.
Post # 12
That’s such a great story.
My mommy is my best buddy. she is a blessing every day and I really appreciate her.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2017 - Ceremony and Reception: Historic mansion on the water
My Mom is blessing to me every day for sure. She has been my cheerleader and teacher all of my life. She supports everything that I do and when I go wrong she lets me know in the way only a Mom can. She has a big heart and has been giving to not only me but to all of her family. She has a way of making you feel at peace when there’s chaos going on around you. She shows that same love to all of her family which now includes my FH and, yes, my furbaby too. She is AWESOME.
Post # 14
Tandoori65: My mom is the best! She is super supportive and funny. She thinks I can do no wrong. If you want your eyeballs scratched out, say something negative about her daughter.
Post # 15
My mom is my best friend. One of my best memories with her is when we rented a convertible and drive up the California coast from LA past San Luis Obispo. Just the two of us. I think I was about 20 at the time.