SO can't come to DD birthday party…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Ninteenthchance:  I assume he can’t trade with anyone or hasn’t?

Post # 4
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

He can’t trade (or pay someone to take his shift?)


Post # 6
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would call in sick if I were him.

Post # 8
1243 posts
Bumble bee

It sucks but I would be surprised if there’s a working person on the planet who hasn’t had to miss out on something because they had to fulfill work obligations.

Birthday parties for 2 year olds are more about the adults. I’m sure your DD will have fun even in his absence.

Post # 9
2173 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

If it’s in his contract, I would pull it up and show the boss.

Post # 10
42101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would definitely recommend that he not call in sick. The boss already knows it is his daughters birthday, and it simply isnt worth jeopardizing his career.

Luckily your daughter is only going to be 2 so she will not be scarred for life if her Dad can`t be at the party.

Post # 11
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Do you know what I don’t remember? At all?? My 2nd birthday party. It’s his job, it sucks, no doubt, but he needs to be responsible and just go to work. If he really wants to pull out his contract and put up a fight, go for it, but is it really worth it?? I doubt it. 

Post # 12
7207 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@SeaSalt:  +1

It does suck but inthis economy I wouldn’t do anything to rock the boat. 

Post # 13
10886 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@julies1949:  +1.|

It’s very unfortunate that no one will agree to switch with your DH, but, unless someone changes his or her mind at the last minute, I think your DH has no other choice but to show up for work to fulfill his obligation.

Post # 14
2893 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

aw, that sucks. it’s true that your daughter won’t remember, but i can imagine how disappointing it is for you and your husband.

how about planning something else for another day to make up for it? not a full on birthday party, but maybe a fun outing like going to the zoo or aquarium or something. 

Post # 15
7025 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Ninteenthchance:  Has he tried saying to his boss, “Look my contract says you can’t make me work 2 Saturdays in a row, so I won’t be there. End of discussion”. How can his boss go against his contract? Why should your partner pay for his boss’ mistake?

Sure it’s “only” a 2nd birthday party, but what if he pulls the same stunt on your wedding weekend?

That said, worst case, yeah he should work.

Post # 16
1869 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I definitely wouldn’t lose my job over it (or do something that I thought would really hurt me at work) but if there is someone he can go up to like HR I would definitely just be like hey this is the rules and I have plans so?

sounds like if the boss man screwed up and gave everyone off then boss man should stay and cover saturday

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