- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
So, I am so upset right now, finances are not my best friend right now when it comes to the wedding. This might be a little long…
So, one minute my mom says that she will be able to pay for certain things for the wedding, the catering and such, the next she doesn’t know how she’s going to. We decided on this date, which is only 5 months away, because our parents agreed to pay for it. We don’t even have a large budget, it’s only $5,000. So, now we have another part of the wedding we don’t know how we’re going to pay for. My FI’s parents have taken so much of the financial responsibility of this because my mom keeps backing out of paying for things, and then my bridesmaids all of a sudden decided that they cant pay for their dresses, so my FMIL is paying for all of them.
His parents are so kind to pay for all of this, but I hate asking and I feel terrible. His parents still have the rehearsal dinner to pay for, plus his mom is paying for the mens tux’s and my dress alterations. The only thing my mom has paid for was the $392 rental deposit. She didn’t buy my dress, shoes, nothing.
So at this point, since I don’t know what all is getting paid for, and how we’re going to do it, Im about to just say f**k it and call the wedding off, or push the date back further, which I really really dont want to do since we’ve gotten so much done already and his parents have invested so much into it.
I cant say anything to my mom because she’ll flip out on me, but I just dont know what to do. Im a college student and my FI works a min. wage job, we’re in no way financially set to pay for the wedding right now. We could pay if we were to save up for deposits and stuff, but since BOTH my mom and his parents AGREED to pay for it all, we didn’t have that stress so we focus on buying food and essentials.
I’m just so frustrated, and dont know what to do. My FI is applying for some other jobs that pay higher, so we’re hoping for the best there. But until then we really need my mom to step up and help out more, it’s not fair to his parents to pay for all of this. =/