- 8 years ago
I have never thought that I was going to face these kind of problems with my boyfriend (of 5 years).
Background: We met when we were 19. After dating for 2 years we moved in together. I decided in 2008 to wait for him and continue with my graduate studies in the same place, so I didnt move away. He studies medicine and has 2 more years to graduate.
This summer his family came at my home, to meet me and my mother. They couldnt even look at me, or my mother, straight in the eye… The situation was frustrating. I have never felt worse. I feel bad for my mother too. It was like they were forced to come.
So after some days I asked him on the phone, to get engaged, since I wanted him to show a commitment towards me. Or better said, I wanted him, to show his family that I am the one, who he wants to share his life with. He talked to his family and the long story short, he said NO.
He lives 5 hours away from me. The next day he came, and explained that he wanted us to get engaged and then married, but not right now , because of the misunderstanding with our families, and some other justifications..Then he left, and didnt even wait to meet with my mother.
I love him very much, but now, after 2 months apart, I feel very insecure and
betrayed. He doesnt seem the same person to me anymore.
So this is the only solution that I could think of…
After a week we are both going home (the place we live in together), away from here. I think that I will be done with my graduate studies until January. If he doesnt propose me (or at least show me a clear timetable) until then, I am going to move out. But not just out of the house, but out of the state.I have some plans of mine, that I want to work on, and have always postponed because of him. (We wanted to do them together, after he graduated).
I dont want to give him up, so we could have a long distance relationship, (If he agrees, since he is very contrary to this kind of relationships. He is sure they do not work!! ) until he finishes his studies, and does the right thing for me.
I know this will be very hard, since I love him with all of my heart. But now I am in a tunnel, and I dont see any light…
Do you have any other suggestions or advices please…