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posted 2 years ago in Parties
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    EvaBostonTerrier    July 3, 2010  

    My sister is my MOH (she just turned 18) and my bridesmaid is my cousin (she is 16).  It was basically expected that the wedding party would consist of relatives.  Anyways, they are really young!  My sister just asked me what I would like for a bachelorette party.

     

    My friend from school has been extremely helpful in wedding planning (she got married 2 years ago) and asked who I wanted to invite to the bachelorette party.  She didn't expect my sister to really do anything because she is so young.  

     

    I'm kind of a quiet person, and am not really interested in having a bachelorette party.  My friend knows that I am not comfortable with a "traditional" bachelorette party, and mentioned just inviting whoever I wanted, going out to a nice dinner, have some wine, etc.  The girls live about an hour away, and they of course are too young to be drinking or really going out.  I would hate for the girls to feel out of place because my friends are in their early - mid-twenties, are in professional school, etc, and my sister and cousin are in high school.  They two different groups haven't met before.  

    So my questions:

    • Do I try to get them to work together to come up with something?  
    • Should I do something separately with my sister and cousin and then with my friends?
    • Who else do I need to invite - my mother and FMIL, other female relatives?  (If my mom was in attendance, there probably wouldn't be a big issue with the girls being there too - basically they would be "chaperoned" I guess...)

    Help!!

     
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    Bella13    May 13, 2009   Honolulu, Hawaii

    My bridal starts at age 14 and goes all the way to 25 so I totally understand! I'm only inviting girls in my bridal party and close girl friends. We're doing a sleepover! :) The girls that want to drink were asked to bring ingredients for their favorite drink and we're going to make non-alchoholic ones for the younger ones. We're just going to eat snacks, play games, do our nails and all that fun sleep over stuff. It's a good way for all the girls to get to know eachother and it's still super fun :)

     
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    Tonya2010    September 11, 2010  

    It sounds like you are not a huge fan of actually going out to clubs and drinking a lot, so I think that going to dinner and then having a sleepover like Bella mentioned would be perfect.

     
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    LittlestBirds    July 24, 2010   Seattle, WA

    Age 16 and 18 are not so young that they should feel out of place at a nice dinner where others are having a glass of good wine. I say let your friends organize it, with the understanding that it will need to be appropriate for underage guests. At least extend them the invitation, they can always politely decline if they don't want to drive so far for something they feel is too adult for them, or if their parents aren't comfortable.

     
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    Alli259       Canada

    I am having the same problem.

    I was thinking of having a cottage weekend at my sisters in-laws-cottage on the lake. So... like a sleepover.. just extended... and on a lake.

    In the thread I started another Bee also suggested a spa day w/ dinner or lunch. I like this idea too!

     

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