Post # 1
So please tell me I’m not crazy thinking this is super strange. My ex of almost 6 years recently changed his profile picture to an old pic of us when we were together in college. It is basically a picture of us sitting close together making funny faces. But we are the only people in the picture- it’s not a group picture or anything. We aren’t on bad terms- basically we broke up because I moved away for a job and realized the relationship wasnt going anywhere. He took it kind of hard ONLY after I met my husband 6 months after moving away. I think it was just a stupid jealousy thing At the time. But after talking it out, he moved on quickly after that and had a serious girlfriend until a few weeks ago.
I woke up the other morning to a notification that someone had tagged me in a photo and it turned out to be his profile picture. I quickly hid it from my timeline, but I’m sure people saw it which I find to be so awkward- especially my husbands family! And he is friends with all of my college friends and some of my family, so they see it every day. I just don’t understand why he would want that as his profile pic or what he is hoping to prove with it. I’ve been happily married for 2.5 years and due with my first baby in two weeks!
Would you be weirded out by this? I kind of want to say something because it makes me cringe thinking that my friends and family are seeing this everyday (it has been there for a week now, so it isnt a mistake). But then again, if anything it makes him look weird for putting it up. What would you do?
(*I know some people will think it is inappropriate that I’m friends with ex’s still, but I guess to my husband and I it is normal. We are both Facebook friends with all of our Ex’s and there haven’t been any issues until now.)
Post # 3
@faye0314: I’d definitely be weirded out, especially since he also tagged you in it. Sounds like he’s waiting for you to message him.
Post # 5
That’s definitely weird. I don’t think it’s weird that you’re friends with him though. I would either ignore it or just remove him from your friend’s list. I can’t imagine there’s any good reason he would choose such an odd and old photo to put as his profile picture. AND he tagged you in it so he definitely wanted your attention.
Post # 6
@PonytailKim: that’s what I am kind of thinking too, which is why I haven’t messaged him. i did actually have a very quick “hi, how are you, bye” sort of conversation on Facebook chat a few weeks ago before he put the picture up. That is normal with him every year or so- just a quick catch up. He initiated that conversation (and always does), and I talked a lot about how excited my husband and I are about the baby. Nothing that would lead him to think I was in any way interested in him. I was just being polite by answering his message. Now I’m kind of wondering if that set him off, but I don’t really know how it possibly could lead him on in any way. If anything, I would think hearing about how happy I am with my husband/baby would have the opposite effect.
Post # 7
yeah, thats a little weird!
Post # 8
@faye0314: Super weird and inappropriate.
I’ve just checked facebook rules. You can remove the tag (and you should), but you can’t make him remove the photo. But me, I would ask him to remove it.
Post # 9
Ugh, totally weird. Sounds like he’s feeling wistful and a little jealous.
@paula1248: +1 @ untagging yourself
Post # 10
Yeah, I’d find it weird. But I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction of a reaction, because I’m sure that’s what he’s waiting for. I’d untag myself and ignore.
Post # 11
@paula1248: I did untag it first thing! It was actually my husband that woke me up laughing telling me that I had a new picture tagged. He thought it was funny, probably because he know how horrified I would be.
@HisMoon: I guess I can see that. I just don’t get it after 6 years have passed. I feel like it makes him look really pathetic to all of our mutual friends. I just hope that none of them think that I had anything to do with it! Ugh.
Post # 12
my guess is that since he’s recently single, maybe he put it up there to make his recent ex jealous?
Post # 13
This is so weird. :S
I would just ignore it. I think he’s looking for a response.
@memo: I thought this was a good idea until I realised that the ex would probablly already know who the OP is and that she is happily married with a baby on the way.
Post # 14
@faye0314: you’ve already removed your tag (that’s what i would’ve done). maybe you can send him a private message requesting him to please remove that picture.
Post # 15
Seeing how it’s kind of a picture with funny faces I would just assume it makes him smile. Maybe because he misses you maybe not. That moment might have just been a nice memory and nothing more. I wouldn’t comment on it. Just ignore it. Commenting on it might seem like your trying to defend your happy marriage.
Post # 16
I would definately be weirded out if it waqsnt a group photo….
You said he had a serious gf until recently? Maybe he was doing it to make her jealous? Some people are petty and into teenage things like that, thinking that will work.