Post # 1
I am getting married next year in Vegas. This was decided as my Fiance’s family lives in TX and we live in MA so it was more cost affective for his family who wishes to attend. We are sending out invites to about 30 people so it will be a small group of friends and family. My problem is that the family and friends as well as coworkers who are not going to Vegas would like some type of reception to celebrate with us. How would I do this? Do you think I would have just a party type celebration at a hall or should I be wearing my gown and everything at this event? I am so confused…. my mom is offering very limited advice and just says “whatever you want to do”. Please help me
Post # 3
I think there are different things you can do. Just to be clear, you don’t owe it to anyone to put more money into your wedding. If they want to throw you a shower or something, with their own money, that’s one thing. But if they are trying to pressure you or guilt trip you into having something in addition to what you are doing, you are not obligated.
If you are wanting to do something, then that’s fine. And how swanky it is, is up to you. If you want to wear your wedding gown, fine. If you want it to be low key, that’s OK too. If it was me, I would probably opt for something low key. But that’s my taste.
Post # 4
Well I’ll just tell you what I did…
We got married in Vegas. I wore a short white party dress and he wore a white button up shirt and khaki pants. We had an outdoor ceremony last month so it was pretty hot! We spent several days there afterward for our honeymoon.
We came back and rented a local hall for a reception the following week for all our local friends and family. Some people attended both the Vegas ceremony and the local reception, some people just attended one thing. I wore a full wedding gown and my hubby wore a suit so we looked like the typical “just married” couple 🙂
Your mom is right though, you can pretty much do whatever you want to do. Instead of a more formal reception you could just have a big get-together at a family’s house, park, a big backyard BBQ, etc. I’ve heard of some people who eloped and waited a bit longer to have a reception–say several weeks or so. I think you need to ask yourself if having a local reception is important to you and find out what works within your bugdet for it that you want to include.
Post # 5
We’re planning on putting a bar tab down at a small bar and telling our friends who couldn’t make it to the wedding to come join. At first we considered having a second reception, but once the planning started I realized I could only handle one reception!
Post # 6
If you want to have a party to celebrate your marriage when you get back, then have one. You can wear a wedding dress or not. It can be fancy or casual – its up to you.
I’ve seen a post DW party that was Mexican fiesta, and one with a BBQ/Texas theme.
Post # 7
Thank you all for your help!! You actually have helped me a lot as well as eased my stress. I didn’t want to stress about my “non-stressful” wedding.
Post # 8
I know, right? I thought, I don’t want to add double the stress 🙂 I know my friends just wanna drink and dance anyways. Good Luck!
Post # 9
I know of a couple who got married at disney land then come back and had a recption at there church for friends and family that coudnt make it they even dressed back up in there wedding attire.
Post # 10
We had friends that did this – got married her her hometown then came back and had a reception with friends and church family. She wore her dress and they did a cake and just finger foods and punch – it was at the church. Everyone was excited to see them and she said it was a good excuse to wear her dress again.
You can do whatever you want – is there a local pub or resturant that you love where you could maybe invite everyone to come and just offer dessert or something simple?
Post # 11
I agree with above posters…do whatever you want. A backyard BBQ, dessert and cocktails only, etc. People just want to party and it doesn’t have to cost a lot – esp if they know you went to Vegas. As a guest for a wedding party, I do think it’s cool to see the bride wear the dress – but no biggie if you choose not to.