Post # 1
So my husband and I got married in May at the courthouse with just the two of us it just seemed like the thing to do at the time the best decision for us and we have had a great marriage and i am certain i made the right decision to marry him . However our families feelings were hurt that we didnt have a wedding and i started to think about how i would love to have one i plan them all the time i just didnt want to plan mine but now i feel that i really want one so i excitedley tell my family that we are going to have something and their response is that it just wont be the same so im meeting in the middle and have gotten all excited about a wedding for my family to be mean about it im so confused its still a wedding still a celebration of our love for each other already married or not so what am i supposed to do?
Post # 3
Have the first anniversary party! It’s not a wedding but a way for people to celebrate you. Friends of ours did it and it was fantastic. No one was like oh they already got married and blah blah because the whole thing was to be able to celebrate the anniversary. They played the video of their wedding that they had during dinner and then did a first dance afterwards it was great.
Post # 4
i second the first anniversary party idea. that way you get to celebrate with your families and have a party, without your family giving you grief about a non-wedding wedding.
Post # 5
I can understand how their feelings would be hurt if you have a close family. I think the first anniversary party is a good idea. Or you could have a wedding reception, with dinner and showing your wedding video – thats what FI and I are doing as we get married abroad in 2 weeks. Then they feel included. I know it’s a difficult situtation. If you’re religious maybe you could have a blessing?
Post # 6
I’m sorry to say but your family is right – there’s only one wedding per couple and you’ve had yours. Ask them if they would like you to have a reception or a party to celebrate instead.