- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
First off, I am in a really crappy mood today and I just need to vent. Period. I don’t need people telling me I am a bridezila or that my bridesmaids aren’t required to do anything other than show up, etc, etc. Please don’t reply to my post calling me a brat or telling me I expect too much from my bridesmaids. I am not here for that or for advice. I am here to vent.
Two girls in my bridal party (who were my “best friends”) are being complete pains in my ass. From day one it has been nothing but drama, and I am tired of it. When I asked them to be bridesmaids I told them that my sister wanted to throw the shower and bach parties and needed their help. I told them they would be expected to do this should they accept. I told them I would not be offended should they not accept, and that I would understand because quite personally, I never wanted to be a bridesmaid either. They both happily accepted.
The problems started right away. The dress, not wanting to help out with the shower, not returning any voicemails, text messages or e-mails, complaining to the other girls that they didn’t feel they should have to buy me a gift, and so on and so forth. One of them even went on FB and did a passive agressive rant directed at me and my wedding and about how she “has better things to do with her life than spend it on ridiculous events”. I ignored it, but it was duly noted. Her attitude has sucked ever since I got engaged, she has made multiple rude comments and barely speaks to me anymore.
My bachelorette party plans have been changed about 4 times now in the past 6 months because these girls either flake or mysteriously have no money to chip in for anything. Whatever, I’ll change my plans.
So to date, these girls have done absolutely nothing for me other than purchase their Bridesmaid or Best Man dress (one of which I had to pay the downpayment for because she blew her money on a clubbing dress for New Years Eve). My sister and 3 other BM’s wanted to do one nice thing for me and rent a limo for my bachelorette party. These two girls proceed to tell them that they will be able to ride in the limo with us, but unfortunately will not be able to contribute. My Maid/Matron of Honor then asked if they could just chip in maybe $15 each. They refused.
For my shower, the two girls said they had no money to contribute to decorations, drinks, games, favors, nothing like that. Their contribution was a half-assed homemade tray of food that no one even touched because it was disgusting. The girls even showed up late and left early.
I am at my breaking point because I know these girls have money. They have money to go shopping, go drinking at bars every Saturday night, plan summer vacations, go out to eat at least once a week and smoke their pack of cigarettes each day. I guess that is just their priorities though, and I am not one of them.
Again, if you feel the need to shame me for wanting my bridesmaids to help out, please refrain. I’m not in the mood for critisism as I have put up with this shit for two years. I only want support or no comments at all.