Post # 1
Tomorrow is my SO’s birthday. Last year he was insistent that he didn’t want to do anything for his birthday but I ended up taking him out to dinner for his birthday, bought him some cologne and we went out to play pool with his roommates after.
This year it’s been an absolute whirlwind in my life. I just closed on my first home and I have basically spent my whole summer focusing on that. I told him that this birthday isn’t going to be as crazy as last year, but he said he’s just grateful that I put a roof over his head (it wasn’t like he was getting kicked out of his living situation before lol). We were at Best Buy and he pointed out a couple of things he wanted. He especially wanted a wireless router for our house, but that’s not really a gift for him. But, I got it for him anyway and gave it to him on Saturday.
Tonight we were eating dinner and I asked him if there was anything special he wanted cooked for his birthday and he said he was fine with leftovers (wth???) so that’s fine but I still feel bad.
I’m thinking about going back to Best Buy tomorrow and pick up another gadget he pointed out the other day but at the same time I don’t want to overstep his wishes. I just don’t want him to feel like it’s another day.
Post # 3
@shues138: Stay in and make him dinner! My FI doesn’t care for celebrating his birthday either but I still go out of my way to make it special, whether he likes it or not. Why not try breakfast in bed? Guys may not like celebrating their birthdays but they love breakfast in bed.
ETA: Another suggestion would be a movie night at home.
Post # 4
I would do something special but keep it low key. How about making him a special dinner or breakfast like the PP said? After, you can watch a favorite movie of his. Best of luck!
Post # 5
take out food he likes, a movie he wants to see, some romance on the couch…sounds like a good birthday to me!
Post # 6
My SO is the same way. His birthday was yesterday and all he wanted to do was sit on the couch all day and watch football. Which I gave in to, but I did give him a few presents & invited my parents over for pizza and cupcakes. ((He didn’t want his parents to come over.))
Post # 7
Make him a nice dinner and provide some sweet, sweet lovin’. What else could he want? 😉
Post # 8
My SO feels the same way about his birthday. He just doesn’t really care.
So I bought him a couple useful gifts, baked his favorite cake and brought over his favorite beer, hid little birthday notes around his house, and took him to dinner.
He enjoyed all of it and didn’t think it was too over the top. Though I know he would have been fine with much less.
They can be such stick in the muds! But I’m sure whatever you end up doing, he’ll feel special!
Post # 9
Just wanted to give you ladies an update. Yesterday I went to Best Buy and bought him a gadget he pointed out earlier. I put it on top of the toilet (the lid was closed!). When he came home, I was sitting on the front porch and told him the toilet was running weird. He went to the bathroom and saw his new gift. He comes up to me and goes “I knew you were going to get this, thank you”. We didn’t do anything for dinner he was playing some new computer game. He went to bed early, I went in after to get “romantic” he wasn’t in the mood, so that was the extent of his birthday.
His old roommate text me to see if we were doing anything this weekend, I told her no we weren’t and his old roommates were going to come over Saturday and take him out to play pool. Well, just found out his old roommate’s grandfather just passed away 🙁 so I guess this weekend will be a home improvement weekend (we have to put in a new doorbell and towel bar and paint our hot pink guest room a more subtle color lol) but hey I tried.
Thanks everyone for the advice, I’m glad my SO isn’t the only one who is a stick in the mud about birthdays! I feel a lot better!